Orgasmic Disorder

Some women never experience orgasm, which represents the most frequent female sexual dysfunction. This disorder is not considered as frigidity or sexual aversion. Details in the video...

Learn to Reach a More Relaxed Orgasm

12.01.2010 | By: S. S.

Did you know that orgasm is most often a state of tension and not relaxation? How can we go about achieving a relaxed orgasm?

 

An optimal orgasm happens when one person is in charge, while the other is only the passive recipient of pleasure. (jlp)

An optimal orgasm happens when one person is in charge, while the other is only the passive recipient of pleasure. (jlp)

A relaxed orgasm is harder to reach

 

Many techniques for reaching an orgasm are designed with the purpose of increasing the tension. However, this isn’t the universal truth. An orgasm is much more difficult to reach when you are perfectly relaxed, especially because it can’t be artificially induced, but it's also different - even more pleasant. There are also women who experience tension all over their body, which actively hinders the perfect response.


A woman's general tension will most likely be a key factor deciding whether the orgasm will even happen or not. (jlp)

A woman's general tension will most likely be a key factor deciding whether the orgasm will even happen or not. (jlp)

How to reach a relaxed orgasm?


When trying to have a more relaxed orgasm, one of the partners can be totally passive and  the other is the soloist, doing all the work, or you can both try to minimize the strain and let the automatic movements take over. You'll certainly have to learn how to let go.



Reach a relaxed orgasm with the method "of a less active partner"


The easiest beginner method for a more relaxed orgasm is probably the one with a less active partner (this usually, but not always, means the one who’s on the bottom). The latter tries stopping all motions during regular coitus and goes totally limp right when the build-up towards an orgasm starts (warn your partner in advance).

 

Surrender to an orgasm that will be entirely due to your partner’s efforts. (jlp)

Surrender to an orgasm that will be entirely due to your partner’s efforts. (jlp)

 

You might find that the fact that you’re still trying to achieve something brings out a different kind of tension the first few times, but after a few more attempts, most people who are easily stimulated can learn how to surrender to an orgasm. They’ll discover that the feeling is different than the just as pleasant orgasm triggered by working hard and postponing.


It feels good to know that you’re making the orgasm happen and your partners are surrendering to that. If this doesn’t suit you, you can go back to a more "forced" orgasm. Perfect union isn’t something you can do on command and ordinary athletic intercourse can be just as wonderful.