Orgasmic Disorder

Some women never experience orgasm, which represents the most frequent female sexual dysfunction. This disorder is not considered as frigidity or sexual aversion. Details in the video...

What to do if she can’t reach an orgasm?

19.05.2009 | By: Antonio B

What to do if she doesn’t have an orgasm despite all the effort and a marathon session?

 


Start the penetration very slowly and with feeling. (jlp)

Start the penetration very slowly and with feeling. (jlp)

 

Make sure the foreplay is long

 

Women love foreplay, so don’t be in a hurry, dear gentlemen. Be committed when working on your girl. Don’t forget about a single erogenous zone. A woman isn’t just a giant vagina, she’s much more. This means that there are at least ten spots on her body which can make her very aroused if you, of course, tackle them in the right way and so that she likes it. Naturally, the precondition is that she tells you what she likes, that she’s not embarrassed to show you her erogenous zones and that she lets you know what will bring her into ecstasy. You have to work on her very passionately and in such a way that she feels your desire for her body. If she notices you’re bored, for example, and that you’re only doing this because you’re in for the main dish later, you blew it already at the start and you won’t be seeing her orgasm that time. And why should you even be in a hurry? If you love your lady, you should focus on her and enjoy every inch of her body. Don’t use only your hands and kiss her, but spoil her with your tongue and use it to discover every corner of her body. Of course, pay most attention to the back, neck, nipples, feet, anus and vagina. Carefully watch and pick up on her reactions and what she likes most at any given moment. Even though she’s tempted to go all the way and wants penetration, stall and get her really hot. If you notice she might have an orgasm already during foreplay, don’t stop but give her one.

 


If you want your girl to be really turned on, focus on all her erogenous zones. (jlp)

If you want your girl to be really turned on, focus on all her erogenous zones. (jlp)

 

Penetration should be slow at first

 

It’s very important how you start the penetration. Don’t be like a wild animal, but take her gently, slowly and with feeling, in such a way that she feels every part of your penis and that you find a nice rhythm already at the start and become synchronised. We really advise you not to be too fast and penetrate wildly. You have to feel her and give her a chance to enjoy every thrust individually. You can pick up the pace only later, but don’t overdo it and act according to her pleasure. Don’t forget that you’re working for her orgasm and if you want her to have one, you’re going to have to make an effort. Also, we see no reason why you should be in a hurry when it comes to sex. You can also enjoy slow movements and really have fun with her vagina. If the whole thing does take a bit too long and if you’re having problems containing your orgasm, stop a bit, think about something else than sex, again exchange the penis for the tongue or a vibrator and continue again. The only important thing is that you can’t allow her to cool down, so that she stops being aroused. You never know – perhaps this combination of tongue, penis and vibrator will additionally excite her.

 


If she’s nearing an orgasm when you’re stimulating her with your tongue, don’t stop. (jlp)

If she’s nearing an orgasm when you’re stimulating her with your tongue, don’t stop. (jlp)

 

Don’t forget about the clitoris during intercourse

 

Many sexual positions are such that the clitoris is totally neglected, which means that the woman feels no clitoral stimulation. This isn’t good because only few women can reach an orgasm only with penetration and without clitoral stimulation. That’s why it’s good you stimulate it during intercourse, or it’s even better that she stimulates it because she knows best how she likes it. If she has the feeling you’re going to look at her strangely because of this, meaning that you alone aren’t enough for her, explain that this isn’t the case and encourage her to help herself. Sex without clitoral stimulation is sex where the orgasm is often missing. That’s why the stimulation of the clitoris is one of the most important factors in reaching an orgasm.

 


A foot massage can also make her really hot. (jlp)

A foot massage can also make her really hot. (jlp)

 

What if there’s still no result?

 

If you’re having sex only so that your girl has an orgasm, you can forget all about it because this will wear her out and she’ll get the feeling you’re bored and are doing it all just because of her, which means that you would rather be doing it differently. Even though the sex may take a bit longer, don’t mention the time to her, or God forbid, don’t mention that it’s time she came. This will literally kill her orgasm. Show her that there’s no rush and that she can enjoy it for as long as she wants. What if it still doesn’t work and all your hard work still doesn’t pay off, regardless of your efforts? It’s definitely not the end of the world because tomorrow is another day. It may happen that same evening, or the following one. It’s important you showed her you have the will and are willing to put in the effort. It’s important that she’s aware that she was close and that she might reach an orgasm much sooner the next time.