Charm Her with Words

15.12.2011 | By: Antonio B

Charming words are always the key to successfully enchanting a woman.

Your act may help you to charm her with words for a while, but will you really manage to hide your true personality forever? (PhotoXpress)

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Don’t intimidate her

Communication is crucial for a successful date. If you’re a master of conversation, then you won’t have any trouble making a good first impression. If you're not so good at speaking to people or if others don’t react to your vocabulary and your communication style in a good way, then you’ll be facing some obstacles on your first date too. Keep the conversation neutral at first. Don’t start off by telling her everything about your wishes and you deepest desires. Talk about things that won’t harm anybody or make anybody feel uncomfortable. Test the waters and try to figure out what you can talk about on the first date and what you should leave for next time. Trying to charm her with words will take its time, so don’t give up if you say something awkward. Just change the subject and hope that she didn’t really catch what you’d just said. Don’t reveal too much too soon. Blurting out intimate details about yourself in a dramatic or heated way might scare her off.

Don’t lay it on to thick

If you want to charm your date with words, you’ll have to make the best possible impression first. Now that’s tough. We all have our flaws, but do we really want to look bad on our first date? If you pretend to be someone you’re not and lay too many lines on her, then you’ll get caught up in it and won’t be able to find a way out anytime soon. You’ll have to play a part and hide your true personality. Don’t jump from one topic to another too quickly or too often. Don’t talk too much about yourself and don’t interrupt her when it’s her turn. Women love a good listener, so take your time and pay attention to what she’s got to say, even if you’re not that interested. Even if she’ll be going on and on about her hairdresser and her clothes for an hour, keep listening and show her that you’d like to hear more. If you’re not the acting type and like to be genuine, just choose a subject you like and really know something about. But be careful that you don’t get carried away. You might start boring her instead of charming her with too many words. The best thing is if you find a subject that both of you like to talk about. It might lead to a very interesting conversation that might bring you closer.

Avoid silence

Silence won’t help you if you want to charm her with words. Silence can turn out nasty and rob you of the ideal ending of your first date. Your conversation mustn’t be interrupted with pauses that are too long. If you can’t think of a new topic, try to refer to the last thing any of you said. This will help you keep the conversation going. And you can always talk about the weather to keep the silence from setting in. Keep in mind that listening isn’t a completely passive role. Say something encouraging here and there and show that you’re still paying attention. When it’s your turn again, say something that’ll show her that you understood what she just said. You can agree or you can bring up an elegant argument to back your own opinion. Don’t argue your point by trying to do everything to prove her wrong. And don’t act like you’re the smartest person in the world either. You want to charm her with words, not make her disappear.

Date analysis

After your date is over, analyze the balance of the conversation. Think carefully about how the date went. Have you talked too much or didn’t say enough? Try to remember if she’s gotten to know more about you than you about her. Go through the whole conversation once again in your head. This is very important so you can find possible mistakes and avoid them during the next date. It doesn’t matter if your next date will be with the same lady or the first date with someone new. The conversation shouldn’t last too long. You also have to be careful not to bore the lady. If you meet a woman at a party and try to charm her with words there, don’t stick to her like glue the whole night long. Let her have fun, let her laugh and dance with her girlfriends, and let her have a drink or two in peace. Take your time and charm her with words only here and then, preferably when there’s a pause because the music's changing. When you get your chance, have some charming words ready.