Discover the Secrets of Happily Married Couples

2.08.2012 | By: Z. J.

Today we uncover 7 secrets of happily married couples. “And they lived happily ever after” doesn’t have to be just a fairytale!

Secrects of happily married couples will give you ideas how to keep your marriage happy. (PhotoXpress)

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Secret of a happily married couple #1: Share your dreams

The most successful couples tend to think strongly as an unbreakable unit. Such a tight knot can be tied only when your dreams ground on a common denominator. A sure sign the couple is truly connected is when they speak of themselves as a unit, using “we” rather than “you and me”. When creating their own love story, successful and happy couples never change their mindset and act as a team, even subconsciously. They remain highly motivated by a common goal. They never lose track of their common goal and are prepared to work hard to come as close to their dreams as possible.

Secret of a happily married couple #2: Turn sex into adventure

Sex is much more than just a sweaty form of exercise. It tends to bring the partners back together whenever they’re on the verge of drifting apart. It never ceases to fill them with warmth and with love for each other.

Sure, it’s difficult to maintain an ever-fresh sexual relationship through the years, but if a couple can accept this fact as an unalterable rule, sexual relations will most certainly thrive. Just keep on track and you will never ever regret the amount of time and energy that you had spent to let your sexual fellowship flourish forever more.

Secret of a happily married couple # 3: Be each other’s towers of strength

Cutting the cord and leaving the family where we became what we are today is a huge step. But it’s unavoidable for a successful couple to function as a whole. You need to draw the line between your union and your respective families. Whenever some sort of tension between “you” and “them” crops up, it’s important to stick together for the sake of your own happiness and not for the sake of crushing the “opponent”. If you act as a team, you’ll be able to relieve any pressure that families inevitably put on their members.

Secret of a happily married couple # 4: Learn to quarrel

Quarrels are a frequent problem. Not just because they occur, since this is inevitable when living quarters are inhabited by more than one person. The problem is that many couples can’t approach and resolve a conflict in a constructive manner.

The main thing is to keep your cool and not be carried away from the main issue you’re dealing with at the moment. This will prevent bringing up the unresolved conflicts of the past or even other points of (dis)order that kept cropping up in past agendas. The other crucial thing is to respect the other’s perspective, no matter what.

Secret of a happily married couple #5: Set a timeframe just for the two of you

It is important to maintain your sense of self while being part of a union of two. Personal awareness can be maintained through activities you undertake on your own, for example when you’re at work or when you're enjoying some quality time engaging in an uplifting hobby.

The maelstrom of your daily routine will mean that the time that you could share with each other now belongs to your children, your bills, possible chores around the house, etc. Don’t forget that a special timeframe just for the two of you is utterly necessary, so that you do not forget that you love each other and why. The “we-time” is crucial for maintaining a thriving sexual relationship and to keep the romance going. Now, do set a timeframe to go to the movies or have a nice candlelight dinner – just for the two of you.

Secret of a happily married couple #6: Friends forever

All successful relationships rest upon an enduring friendship. Friendship is an entity that lets you trust and that gives you the strength and the courage to show your vulnerability. It is also a bond that allows a certain measure of conflicts. The partners should be each other’s safe havens. They should be able to talk about anything and anything at all. But they should also be able to enjoy silence together, if they feel the need.

Secret of a happily married couple #7: Defying the odds together consolidates the union

We are constantly challenged by countless unpredictable obstacles, such as illness, unemployment or death in the immediate family. Many a couple tends to call it quits at this point, but those who keep their heads high and sail on become stronger each time that fate decides to challenge them. Such couples are living reminders that the phrases “for better or for worse” and “till death do us part” are true.