Do the Little Things in Your Partner Get on Your Nerves?

Something you didn’t notice at the beginning drives you crazy after a certain time. Why does that happen?

 

 

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Everything is fine at the beginning

The potential romance promises all too much, but the source of the ‘problem’ is in people themselves, as if they would want to be blinded by the chemical processes raging in their bodies. Everything is perfect and the meeting goes like a smooth descent down the bobsleigh track, without any cracks which could be filled with bickering and disagreement. They observe each other, pay each other compliments, and their own blindness almost takes their breath away because of their intense courtship.

From summer romance to friendly love

If the summer doesn’t have too much influence on you mind, you and your loved one decide to share your lives. It doesn’t bother you that the season has changed and, consequently, your partner’s behaviour. The initial passion eases and you finally open your ‘velvet’ eyes and wake up from the dreamy and still unforgotten summer. You start living together and the potential scenario is unpredictable. A limited area of movement in your flat enables you to study your partner’s daily routine in detail and start assessing his or her positive and negative characteristics. Life goes on without any major conflicts. At least it seems that way.

When the little things become the cause of conflict between you

All that time, each of the partners or at least one of them ponders and tries to see into the future, and thus postpones a debate as the basic element of a quality relationship. And then the key moment appears, indicating a breaking point. Every little move your partner makes starts irritating you. For instance, how he or she places a lighter on the table or moves around the kitchen and in general everything that you wouldn’t even notice if you had the feeling that your relationship is on in the ‘right’ track. These little things may have even made you laugh at the beginning.

When it breaks, it ends for ever

These  irritating little things are in fact the indicator that you’ve shut your eyes (as well as mouth) to the real picture of your relationship all the time. Probably, you’ve pondered about every detail of your relationship by yourselves instead of resolving these problems every time they appeared. You therefore take advantage of anything that can trigger a conversation about unresolved problems, often criticising your partner, which takes the matter so far that you doubt the existence of your relationship. And if this exercise is often repeated, the situation becomes clear, or your sky becomes cloudy.

The relationship will most probably end without even knowing the real reason. All you know is that the little things in your partner started bothering you. However, these are the trivial things that prove to be of key importance if ‘two want to become one’, or they’re just two individuals in the wrong place at the wrong time.

 

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