Do You Wonder Why Are You Still Single?

13.09.2012 | By: Alex F.

Every day, thousands of women and men ask themselves why are they still single. Is there any hope? Yes, as long as one is willing to examine his or her attitudes.

Being single will kill you only if you believe to be created for sharing your life with someone and if you truly want it to happen. (PhotoXpress)

Join us on Facebook!

1. Analyze your previous relationships

If you're single but you want to move on, begin by making an in-depth analysis of your previous love relationships. What did actually go wrong? Don't blame your ex, this time. Take a good look in the mirror and be honest with yourself. Only with such an approach can you learn a useful lesson from your past mistakes.

2. Realize that you're responsible for your life

Admit to yourself how your last relationship functioned. If the break-up was initiated by you in most of your past relationships, you’ve found a gold mine. Start digging. You're the creator of all of your experiences in life and you control all the decisions you make. Your decisions are made on the basis of your personality traits, and the latter bring consequences that you have to face.

3. Be who you are

Don’t pretend to be someone else. If you don't accept yourself wholly, sooner or later the society starts dictating your character, and then you can only be a miserable and unrealized person, in the long run. If you pretend, you don’t contribute anything to a relationship. Be yourself and take off your mask at least in front of the person you feel attracted to. Only by being honest can you achieve any real, genuine and truly satisfying contact. So don’t make a habit of hiding your personality!

4. Enjoy positive thinking

The significance of your inner monologue lies in the fact that it’s projected outwards. The thoughts that cross your mind during the day guide you like a programme. Keep in mind that negative thinking turns other people off. For instance, if you characterize yourself as a “magnet for freaks,” then when you go on a blind date, your date will unconsciously notice that and respond in his or her own way, accordingly. Do you really want to attract freaks?

5. Enjoy success

It’s wise to assess each situation separately, since every piece of the puzzle is a unit in itself. Only then can you eventually see the pattern clearly. If you're single and you firmly believe that “all the best women/men” are already taken, this simply means you’re in search for a lost treasure, because you believe you're looking for the “remains” before you've even tried to find the treasure. Animals supposedly don’t show such behavioral patterns. Humans, however, often fall a victim to self-destructive tendencies and trained powerlessness.

6. There's no need for satisfying a person at all costs

The common mistake of single people is that they're ready to change themselves in order to satisfy the other person unconditionally. Unfortunately, this doesn't work, since it works like a boomerang.

7. Be flexible

If something doesn’t work, stop doing it. The only constant in our lives is change.

8. Live in the right environment

If you create the environment where you feel best, this will make your search process much easier. As a single person, you want to create an environment that is most suitable for meeting other people.

9. Observe people's body language

Less than 20% of communication takes place on the level of words. This means that your thoughts will melt with your environment through your body language. Because of your body language, someone may find you completely fascinating or completely repulsive.

10. Learn to accept compliments

Maybe you appear to be unapproachable and don’t notice people flattering you because you believe that it can’t happen to you.

Single doesn’t mean alone, since the most important relationship which you have to nurture is the relationship you have with yourself. You must ask yourself whether you want a serious relationship or whether you feel you “have to want it” because it’s still a set norm in our society. The first answer offers you the beauties of sharing life with someone and the second only makes your partner a burden to you and vice versa.