Every Common Cheating Myth Disproved

13.10.2011 | By: S. M.

Can cheating be prevented? Are affairs only about sex? Read about every common cheating myth that's widely believed.

A cheating myth says that your partner will only cheat if you're not perfect. (PhotoXpress)

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Cheating myth #1: Only unhappy people cheat

This is a cheating myth which is often believed, in particular, by people who cheat, but it is not quite true. At least not for men. There are a lot of men who love their partners and they have great sex life with them, but they never miss an opportunity to sleep with another woman. However, no generalizations should be made. Research showed that 56% of men who cheat on their partners are very happy at home. Only 34% of unfaithful women claimed the same. It is usually considered that women cheat because they are unhappy in their marriage.

Cheating myth #2: Men cheat more often

In general, it is believed that this member of the cheating myths is disappearing, and that women cheat as often as men. Why? Mostly because they want something new and different. Cheating may also be a punishment, because they think their partners do not appreciate them enough as a loving wife and the mother of their children, or because partners do not devote enough attention to them, or because they drifted apart. Women, however, have a guilty conscience more often than men do.

Unfaithful men should say whether this cheating myth it true. Some studies show that women are better at covering up their lies and they are more successful at covering up cheating on their partners.

Here we can debunk another cheating myth according to which men want to turn a friendship into an affair more often. This is not quite true, as it is usually women who get more emotionally involved and, on the basis of the friendship, try to establish a more successful love relationship than the one they currently have. Men usually only want excitement in their sex lives with as little commitment as possible. We should perhaps consider whether this is a myth too?

Cheating myth #3: Affairs only involve sex

This cheating myth is often true, but not always.

In affairs, people usually wants to experience and get what they miss in their relationship. And no relationship is perfect. Even perfect partners are not safe from cheating, because their partners may get tired of perfection. It does not therefore only involve sexual relations.

Cheating myth #4: If your partner is cheating on you, he or she does not love you

If your partner is cheating on you, he or she does not respect you or does not respect your agreement. This is a fact. In no way does that mean your partner does not love you. Many people have no difficulties differentiating between sexual relations and love. However, you have to ask yourselves whether this definition of love is suitable and sufficient for you.

Cheating myth #5: You could've prevented it

That is not true. You can try as much as you want to be the best possible partner, or be on the lookout for signs of potential cheating, but you will not be able to prevent it if your partner wants to do it.

All that you can do is to choose a partner who suits you the most and who will respect your agreement on fidelity.

Cheating myth #6: If it's not sex it's not cheating

We would like to believe that, but it is wrong. Strong emotional infidelity can also deeply hurt your partner and damage your relationship. Often even more than physical infidelity. We become addicted to emotions. They are difficult to ignore and they accompany us always and everywhere, even in bed with our partner. If you pretend to be single when you are in a relationship, or if you spend emotionally intimate moments with another person, your partner may also understand it as emotional cheating, and perhaps leave the relationship alltogether.

Cheating myth #7: An affair can save a relationship

This myth is largely believed by individuals who cheat. However, it is not true. In most cases cheating completely destroys the partner’s trust and it is trust that provides solid basis for any relationship. There are not many couples who can return to the point where they were prior to cheating. Cheating is never forgotten by the person who did it as well as by the one who was cheated on, and it often follows them throughout their relationship as a dark shadow, in case, of course, they decide to stay together.