He Won’t Love you More if You Have Sexual Intercourse with Him!

20.09.2012 | By: T. P.

Don’t try to find love through sex. If you have sexual intercourse with a man, it won’t make him fall in love with you, no matter how good sex is.

 

 

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Passion, and not love usually leads to sex. But there’s no love without passion. (PhotoXpress)

 

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When you have sexual intercourse too soon and just want to replace the lack of emotions

Let’s take a look at the following situation. For instance, you went out on two dates with a man you already know for a while. He’s a nice guy and you like him a lot. You feel that you’re in love and know that you want to be more than just friends. So, you decide to take it a step further and deliberately end up in bed with him, despite the fact that he doesn’t show the same emotions towards you. You think that sex will tip the scales in your favor and trigger emotions of love in him. Well, things may turn out just great, but that’s highly unlikely. Women don’t understand that although men love to have sex and sleep with women, the object itself, a woman, doesn’t mean necessarily very much to them. If there’s no emotional bond, sex won’t establish it. On the contrary. Men are happy to have sexual intercourse on the second date. If they don’t fall in love, they at least have great sex. (This sentence may sound chauvinistic, but we can’t change reality). No matter how great the sex is, it won’t trigger the right emotions if they’re not there in the first place. A woman who seduces a man and lures him into bed one way or another is a temptation most guys just can’t resist. But they’ll see the woman differently, in a positive or negative way, and it won’t have any connection to love. Some men will call her a tramp; others will praise her by saying that she’s a woman who knows what she wants and that the sex was great. If you just want to be loved, sex won’t help you achieve your goal. It’s true that if you have sexual intercourse at 16, it has a great impact on your emotions. But in the world of adults things are different; sex is sex and if both consent to it, they don’t need reasons and there are no consequences, at least emotional ones. Some, more conservative readers would probably disagree and say that sex always affects our emotions, which is probably true, but the fact remains that sex doesn’t produce emotions if they’re not there in the first place. Sex can only strengthen your love bond at some point, as you’ll se in the advice below.

Advice:

Never build your love on sex. Well, we don’t want to be dogmatic, so we accept the possibility that everything, from the spark to the explosion, happens in an hour, and the fire burns forever. It’s also possible to forge a strong love bond despite having sex too soon. Our aim is to advise you how to behave around men and not feel frightened of missing out on something. So, wait a while before you have sexual intercourse, at least until you’re certain that the man feels the same way about you. How long that will take and how you can tell when it happens is difficult to say. Usually, you have a few bad experiences that help you develop your intuition, or your love compass. You shouldn’t take the tips in women’s magazines seriously - you know, the “10 simple ways to tell he really loves you” kind. Men also read them and are just amazed at how “simple” they really are. In addition, you can exploit these tips for your own “mean” purposes. So, just listen to yourself and your emotions, bear in mind your previous experiences and, above all, open your eyes. No matter how badly he wants to have sexual intercourse with you, he’ll wait for it and he’ll do it with a smile too. If he gets angry when you turn him down, it’s a sign that he has different motives. Men don’t find it difficult to wait if deep emotions are involved. If you’re dating someone and he genuinely likes you, and if there’s “love” in the man’s head, not just between his legs, he’ll take your rejection with ease. And when you finally do have sexual intercourse, you’ll be able to assess whether your emotions are deep enough or you’ve caved in too soon. You have nothing to lose, so don’t be impatient and don’t try to force love, especially not by having sex.

 

Read more about sex and sexuality in our Lover's Guide.

 

 



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