How to Get Over Your Ex? (Part 1)

11.08.2011 | By: S. J.

Read how some people manage to get over a long relationship in the blink of an eye and learn how to do it yourselves.

Sometimes there are too many emotions present and it is hard to get over your ex. (PhotoXpress)

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Your partner has left you and you are confused, scared and do not know what to do. In a state of panic, you would like to beg for another chance and promise him/her, like so many times before, that everything will be different, better and that you will not repeat the same mistakes. But why linger in a relationship where the passion is long gone, when being single is not all that complicated as it seems at first. Getting over him/her is not really as easy as it sounds, but with the help of the following advice, you will get over your partner in record time.

Get over your ex: Simply turn him/her OFF

You know this function, right? Televisions have it. Its function is to switch something off by simply pressing a button. It will be a bit different for you: The first thing you have to do is stop staring at his/her picture and do not think about how perfect this person is. Do not answer their calls, emails and in no way go for coffee with them. Do not idolize your ex because he/she are nowhere near perfect and besides, he/she does not deserve even a little special attention from you anymore.

Even drunken phone messages, calls and so on are inexcusable. Delete his/her number from your phone book, even though you know it by heart. When the story is finished, you have to move on, which means that even if you manage to return back to his/her arms, it is only temporary. You have to be aware that the other person does not have the same feelings for you as you have for him/her, so any possible sexual encounter with you may only mean a bit of fun for your ex and not a return to your relationship.

Put the reasons to get over your ex on paper

Get rid of the things that are bothering you and write them on a piece of paper (or several), then think about what you have written. Then tear, crumple, burn the paper, or do with it what you wish, just as long as it does not get into his/her hands. Sending a letter to your ex would be an event that you would definitely regret later.

Get rid of everything that reminds you of him/her and get over your ex

This does not mean that you have to burn, destroy and erase everything, but definitely get rid of pictures, letters, emails and so on. If this means getting rid of half your wardrobe, do it, or at least put the clothes in some distant place not visible to you every day.

Get over your ex without even trying to get your stuff back

Unless we are talking about a diamond ring or something valuable, do not come into contact with your ex to get your things back. Sacrifice DVDs, clothes and toothbrushes because they are only unnecessary links between you two. Ask yourself if it is necessary to go through all the suffering and see him/her again just to get back some superfluous junk? Many people try to get their things back or try to return the other person’s things just so they could come into contact again. But, as we have already mentioned, these excuses and contacts will not bring anything good in the long run. Draw the line and stick by it. Time heals all wounds. Just think about your previous ex partners and how those feelings faded a long time ago. This will definitely make it easier to get over this partner as well.

Do not miss the second article about getting over the ex. We will give you some important advice for an easier way towards emotional freedom.