How to Hit on Women Successfully?

30.08.2012 | By: T. P.

Read some pearls of wisdom and some useful advice on how to hit on women and how not to!

Women rarely “fall for” seductive one-liners. (PhotoXpress)

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I admit I have never been able to understand people who use one-liners to try and hit on women. You get to know a person after years of living together and not when exchanging a few sentences in a bar or a club. It also seems that if I did find a woman who fell for such tricks, I would not want to sleep with her, as she would not reach the basic standards I have set for myself. That is why I rather not try such moves and sit at the bar. But you will not be able to be together with a girl for many years unless you try and meet her. Breaking the ice is about rhetoric ability, which can be used in any area of our lives. The world of seduction (hitting on) is the ideal battleground to test our skills. Some do this to make their evenings more interesting, they place wagers, it is a kind of social game. Some use stupid phrases on purpose and are surprised if they sometimes work. Some are very serious about it and are really disappointed if they fail. And some place the blame on the stupid woman and remain trapped in their little chauvinistic world.

How NOT TO HIT on women!

The American model as observed in the movies does not work well in real life without being modified. The phrases sound good at first, but they get old really fast. So you have to have a lot of imagination. The most annoying thing is usually cheesiness and lack of originality. Like:

”Do your feet hurt? You have been running through my mind all night long!“
”I have never seen anything as beautiful in my whole life!“
”Do I know you? I think I have seen you before... in Heaven?“
”Is your mother a goddess, by any chance?“

The guy who used this phrases for the first time must have had some success, but these phrases only work on 13 year-old girls nowadays, when they go to their first party. Some try to use the element of shock. Usually, shocking someone is successful, but you do not get to your desired goal.

”If I were you, I would fall in love with myself in a second!“
”You are so cute. Can I smell your armpits?“
”Can I tell you something on your mouth”“
”I have lost my telephone number. Can I have yours?“
”You must have been born with a C-section because your head has such a beautiful shape “
"It must have hurt when you fell out of Paradise!"

We must get the girl interested, show her that we are interested in her and that we are not desperate. We must also be respectful, even though we fake it. If we are good actors, we do not have to be sincere. A sincere man is usually unsuccessful because he would say: “Do you want to fu..?” Honesty is not a good idea here, except with certain women who supposedly exist. (The author of this article has never come across one and does not know anyone who has – they are supposedly rarer than unicorns).

How to hit on a woman?

The male mind must conform to certain rules to get to the desired goal. You have to approach a woman confidently and calmly. You always look her in the eyes and only the eyes. You do not avoid eye contact during the conversation. However, do not stare at her and do not forget to blink. The question is always the same: What do I say to her and what can I talk about? There are many strategies. One is to try to deduce, by carefully watching her, what her job is, what her interests are and stuff like that. It may sound difficult, but it is not, unless you stumble upon a girl with no interests, who is only waiting for a cheap pick-up phrase by a guy with a fat wallet. You look at her and see how developed and muscular she is, which tells you she does sports and sometimes even which sport she is involved in. You look at how she is dressed and you will see how old she is, is she studying (also what and where, but you can make a big mistake here), which magazines she reads and what social class she comes from. You look at her posture, the way she smiles and what her movements are like and you will see if she is confident and what kind of sexual experiences she has. Then you start talking. Even if you are wrong, you have something to talk about. It is about finding a topic for conversation which might interest you both and let her know that you are interested in her and her life and not just her phone number and the possibility of intercourse. If you find one common point of interest, you have successfully broken the ice.