“I’m Going to Kill Her!”

30.06.2011 | By: T. P.

This time we talk about why violence is not the solution if you find out your partner is cheating on you. How to relax and why should you?

Violence is not the solution means that your wife or husband still cheated on you and you still feel betrayed even if you beat him or her up. (PhotoXpress)

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Violence is not the solution

This is easier said than done. Let’s handle things slowly and systematically. Violence is not the solution means that your wife or husband still cheated on you and you still feel betrayed even if you beat him or her up. Besides, he or she might even beat you up, which actually happens quite often. But if you can’t control yourself, take it out on some object, preferably not yours, but your wife’s, something that’s yours but means more to her than to you. If you think really hard about what you want, you’ll see you want revenge for the injustice that’s been done to you, for the pain you felt and for the lies when the cheating was going on. The fact that you’ve been betrayed, lied to your face, that you kissed lips who were God knows where and did God knows what with another person is even more painful. She kissed you and your children with those lips. So you want to punch out all her teeth from those lips. Take it easy and breathe. First of all, you don’t know all the details. You don’t want to know them so stop creating scenes in your mind.

Forget about it and focus on what kind of a person you are and how much better you are than her. It’s better to be a moral than a brutal victor.

Violence is not necessary

Violence is not doing you any good - it will only confirm her decision to cheat on you. You’ll make the whole situation easier because you’ll give her the feeling that everything’s okay now. She was lying to you and now she “got what she deserved” and so the balance is re-established.

Don’t give her the satisfaction. Tell her what she has coming to her (“lying whore”) and turn away from her. Let her know you’re better than she is. This will really hurt her and make her feel much more pain than if you slap her a few times. Let her know you want nothing more to do with her and that you’ve already forgotten about her. Even if your heart is splitting in two, don’t cry. If you are overcome by sadness, turn it into a superior attitude. If you get angry, turn the feeling into loathing. But don’t become violent.

If you want payback, don’t do it with violence. Humiliate her like she humiliated you, hurt her deep in her heart. Believe me, you can take it. What do you care who she’s doing it with now that she’s not your girlfriend any more but just an ordinary bitch.

Don’t go looking for revenge

Violence is not called for, even if revenge is. I never understand men who go looking for the person she cheated him with and try to beat him up or something worse. Utter madness. He has nothing to do with this and isn’t the one to blame, unless he raped her. The times when the alpha male would beat everyone else are over. It’s your darling’s business that she’s doing it with other men, your business is only her lying to you.

A third party has nothing to do with this and isn’t to blame, unless it’s your friend or this person knows you in some way or another. If he’s your friend, then he’s an asshole. It’s not a sin that he liked your wife, or that he slept with her. He’s an asshole because he doesn’t have the balls to fight his most basic urges and show some respect for you.

This lack of respect is so infuriating that it can’t go unpunished. But the punishment can’t be physical. The punishment should be loathing and lack of respect. Give him the same lack of respect as he has given you. Every time you see him, spit in his face and be sarcastic to him when he’s in company. “You really are a good friend, John!” “Who are you banging now, mate?” “This is my best friend. He lies to your face and screws your wife! What a guy!” If you do all of this publicly, your wife and friend will feel the consequences of their actions (the cheating of your wife and the rudeness of your friend) for a long time to come.

Don’t think that you have to hide such things. No, it’s much better to tarnish their name in front of as many people as possible, so that their shame is even greater. Secrets hurt only you. Call her parents and congratulate them on raising such an honest girl. Be innovative and use your muscles for something smarter than knocking out teeth.