I'm Single Again after Years of Being in a Relationship!

22.09.2011 | By: I. M.

"I'm single again - how can I deal with it?" The first steps are always hard but once you get over it - stay sexy, keep laughing and be full of positive energy!

The first independent steps after a long-term relationship are never easy. (PhotoXpress)

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Take your time

Single again? Take time to filter the emotions you still feel for your ex love before returning to the dating game and meeting new partners. The worst thing you can do is bring a whole load of negative emotions to the new relationship. Don’t keep your feelings bottled up and don’t be hasty with new relationships until you feel you’re ready for them. If you’re consoled by sad love songs, listen to them over and over again. Cry if you feel like crying. Have a bowl of your favourite ice cream or chocolate, or go to the seaside if it relaxes you at the moment. If you feel lonely, get a dog or some other pet. Do what makes you feel happy. Don’t shut yourself in your room, but spend as much time as possible in good and positive company. Sooner or later, the sadness you feel after the finished relationship will wear off and you’ll be ready to live without a dark cloud hanging over you.

Put your memories into the closet

When you deal with your emotions, deal with the memories as well. Don’t cling to old pictures, recordings or anything that would remind you of your old love. You don’t have to throw away the memories forever. You can temporarily store them away in a closet or the basement, basically somewhere where you won’t have direct access to them. You can deal with them later, when you feel like it. Don’t waste your life on memories. Live in the present and make as much out of it as you can. If your thoughts still slip away to those moments with your ex, fill up your day with something else. Do various activities in your free time. Join a group, or even better, become a member of a gym, take an aerobics class or something else to do with sports, where you’ll be able to release all your excess or negative energy.

A smile and sexy appearance

Nobody likes a face with drooping lips, sad eyes and a distorted face. Even though you’re sad, put a smile on your face and emanate positive energy. Take the clothes that make you feel really sexy from your closet. Women, show off your sexy legs and seductive cleavage. Call your friends and go out for a fun night of dancing and good music. Order your favourite drink and meet new people. You can choose the establishment. On this night excursion, you should go to a place where you’re not in the least worried of meeting you ex partner coincidentally. Be the kings and queens of the evening, you don’t have to care about anything and anyone, just have fun until the early hours of the morning.

New sex will be different

After you're single again, don’t walk around with your eyes closed. Look around and you’ll see that your ex isn’t the only one in the world. The biggest mistake you can do after a failed long-term relationship is to look for someone exactly like your ex love. Instead, start making new and interesting acquaintances and take an interest in what someone else has to offer. The sex will also be different with a new person. For some, this could be a disaster, but for others, new sex may mean an exciting adventure. Many times, giving your body to someone else, after so many years, can feel a bit unusual, but with a lot of passion, this can be resolved pretty quickly.