Is He the Right Partner for You?

23.03.2010 | By: S. B.

You may be freshly in love and convinced that he makes the right partner for you, but you should really think about the question. What makes a man the right partner for you?

One of the most important proofs he's the right partner for you is that he makes you laugh. (jlp)

The right partner for you knows how to make you laugh and how to listen to you

The right partner for you makes you feel relaxed, satisfied with who you are and peaceful. This is a person who easily makes you smile and with whom you can be just who you are. If you have a feeling that he wouldn't like your character, this certainly has to do something with the incompatibility of your personalities. It is important that your partner doesn't lack self-confidence, but he also shouldn't be arrogant. He should feel good in his skin, as the positive energy he gives out will also affect your relationship. A man who is full of himself and who barely notices you or somebody who constantly feels sorry for himself is without a doubt not the right partner for you. In order to feel loved, you have to think about whether your new partner will be able to provide you with that. The right partner is the one who makes the effort to make you happy, where it is far more important that he knows how to get close to you than to shower you with gifts. This is related to empathy and the ability to care for other people, which a person simply has or lacks. The right partner for you is a man who respects you, your secrets and the intimacy you share, and who tries to solve your problems with you first and not with his mother or friends. Women love men who show a certain degree of playfulness and who know how to enjoy life, but all this doesn't prove that he's the right man for you.

The right partner must be affectionate, caring and loving. (jlp)

Dealing with his and your mistakes

What are his faults and are you really ready to live with them? Are these habits that you understand as basically harmless, or is it that you cannot stand certain types of his behavior, such as smoking, flirting with other women, or gambling? You should keep in mind that in a few years' time he won't be a totally different person and that you cannot change him. At the same time your expectations should be realistic, since the right partner for you doesn't mean the ideal man - there are no ideal men. You too aren't perfect, and that's why you should try to see how he reacts to your bad days, your bad mood and anger. Is he understanding, does he know how to calm you, or does he make you even more angry, does he worsen your bad traits and even exacerbates your foul mood? If this is the case, he is not the right partner for you, since you must be incompatible or he must have very unrealistic expectations of a perfect, silent and docile woman.

The right partner makes your life happier on all levels. (jlp)

The right partner for you is someone whom you are able to get to know really well

Although we all have our little secrets, it's nevertheless strange if you don't know much about your man. Did he tell you where he went to school, what's his relationship with his parents like and what his job looks like? Even if a man is shy, these are the basics, and it's highly unusual if he doesn't want to share the larger part of his life with you. Perhaps he has something to hide or he is so reserved that you'll never get to know him. Ask yourself whether you want to invest time in being in a relationship where you are the only one who shows her true colors. Psychologists suggest getting to know your man on the basis of how he behaves in specific situations. Watch him while he talks with his friends and members of his family: does he show respect towards them or is he arrogant and ridicules them? How does he act when you get sick? Does he care for you, is he compliant and attentive, or is he unconcerned and indifferent? These are situations that can tell you a lot about his emotional and empathic side. And how does he respond when something doesn't go according to his plans? Is he irritable or calm, is he completely cold? Which of these reactions would be upsetting you in the long run? Of course, the definition of the right partner for you depends also on your personal characteristics, as each woman has a unique view of a perfect partner. However, if we recap, you should be looking for compatibility with your partner, which includes above all similarity in your emotional responses and at least partial similarity in your hobbies as well as plans for your future together.