Talk about Intimate Issues with Your Partner

Let's take a look at the unwritten rules of sexual communication. What should you bear in mind when talking about intimate issues with your partner?

 

 

In order to have a great sex life, you need to talk openly about intimate issues with your partner. (PhotoXpress)

 

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Starting to talk about intimate issues in a relationship that is still fresh is usually very difficult because the two people are just getting to know each other. This means that there are many doubts and a lot of people wonder at this stage whether they did something right or not. Sexual communication and getting closer at an intimate level are made harder because sexuality was until recently a big taboo, which means that the rules of sexual behavior haven't been completely or firmly formed. That's why we will give you some advice on just how to behave when connecting intimately with your partner.

Virginity

Never hide your virginity. If you're a virgin, admit it to your partner. Don't be ashamed, even if you are no spring chicken. If the person you are taking your first intimate journey with is respectful and understanding, there is no reason to hide this. If he is not, it's best to think again whether it's a good idea to be with a person who would mock you if you were to tell him the truth. If you are the complete opposite, which means you are a bit more sexually experienced, but you presume your partner is not, be considerate and help them.

Period or an inflammation

In case you get your period, tell your partner. If you decide to get intimate regardless of this fact, make him aware that there will be bleeding and that there might be an unpleasant smell, and prepare some handkerchiefs or a towel in advance.

The same goes for genital inflammations. If you feel itching and burning down there, or if your discharge smells strange, talk about this with your partner before going to bed with them. It is wrong to simply assume that your infection cannot be transmitted or that nothing can happen with only one sexual encounter. Irresponsible silence can mean transferring the inflammation onto your partner and even your losing him/her because the person can form a negative opinion about your past sexual experiences and the source of the inflammation.

Taking a shower

After running around the whole day, you cannot expect to be fresh and fragrant, so don't be shy to suggest to your partner showering or bathing together. Personal hygiene is extremely important when it comes to physical intimacy. If there's no other choice, use intimate handkerchiefs to freshen up your private parts before intercourse.

Clean sheets

Before going to bed with a new partner, check your sheets to make sure that there are no traces of previous sexual activities. This would be very awkward and even insulting for the person you intend to spend the night with.

Protection

Before getting to it, talk with your partner about safe intercourse. It is not rude or inconsiderate if you insist on intercourse with a condom. You have a right to enjoy safe intercourse. Regardless of whether your partner feels insulted or not, it is your body and perhaps even your life. But it's better to discuss this well beforehand and not at the final moment, when you're both completely aroused and just about to shag your brains out.

 

Read more about sex and sexuality in our Lover's Guide.

 

 

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