What's Wrong with Looking for a Partner Online?

5.07.2012 | By: J.P.

More and more people are looking for a partner on the internet, which has its advantages and disadvantages.

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Looking for a potential partner on the internet can be done in different ways - from a simple search through chat programs, forums and online communities, for example Facebook, to specialized sites which enable you to search according to certain criteria. Psychologists and other experts have joined forces to study this global phenomenon, which they named Computer Mediated Relationship.

The advantages of looking for a partner online

Looking for a partner online definitely has some advantages compared to looking for love in the real world. The choice of potential partners is wider and so are the possibilities that you will find someone appropriate. You will have enough time to decide who you want to establish personal contact with and unwanted suitors can be turned down easier than in real life. It is also easier for shy people to find love online, especially if they have problems with certain situations, for example an honest and personal talk with their partner. Internet offers the possibility to meet the possible suitors in a relaxed way, without any fear that your appearance or behavior will leave a bad impression. You will also save some money that you would otherwise spend for meeting people in bars or restaurants.

Online communication puts more emphasis on intelligence and the character of a person. People become better listeners and focus less on the appearance, because they are usually looking for a person with similar values. Certain researches emphasize the importance of freedom that the online communication gives to people. Anonymity enables the people to open up and confess more than they would otherwise, and on the other hand the users find the things said less important than in the real world.

The disadvantages of looking for a partner online

Online relationships also have their disadvantages. You can never be completely sure what kind of person you are speaking to, until you actually arrange a real meeting. Therefore you have to be extremely careful with revealing your personal information. Set the boundary when talking about the personal stuff and make sure you never cross it. You never know if the person's intentions are honest or not, and it is much harder to discover their lies.

People who have a virtual relationship compare the experience to any other relationship. Many people are very enthusiastic about it and they often talk about almost mystical similarity with their online partner. You should be aware that the internet makes it easy to hide one's defects and that's why you should never idealize your online partner. No matter how romantic the conversations are and how strong is the feeling that you finally found the right person, you should stay on solid ground. Otherwise you are may risk a possible disappointment, your expectations will be shattered and your heart broken in a minute.