Advice on Buying and Using a Strap-on

28.09.2010 | By: S. B.

Even though many couples still have reservations about using a strap-on - a penis that one of the partners puts around the waist.

Have you been thinking about buying a strap-on?

Talk before buying a strap-on

Don't surprise your partner with a strap-on, but make sure you talk about the purchase first. If you notice your partner is curious, then the only question remaining is which strap-on is the most appropriate for you.

If your partner is reserved when you mention a strap-on, then you can present it in a fun way and not as something that you would want to force him or her into buying. If you both agree with the purchase, don't choose the first one you see, but be a bit picky.

Choose the right strap-on

Think about what kind of dildo you want to have? If a woman is the one who will mostly enjoy in the penetration, then she should be the one to choose the length, color, structure and material of the strap-on. If you and your partner will exchange the strap-on, then settle for something you both like. Nowadays there are many different kinds of dildos and vibrators available, so it shouldn't be difficult to find the right one for yourselves. Strap-ons are come in all shapes and sizes. You can choose among those with a small penis, strap-on made especially for anal intercourse or for g-spot stimulation, but you can also buy a classic one.

Strap-ons can have one, two or three belts, and all of them can be adjusted to fit in size. Some strap-ons have a dildo with testicles attached to them; others have a vibrator with batteries which can be used with a remote control. You can also find strap-ons which stimulate the genitals of the person wearing it.

How to prepare for using a strap-on for the first time?

You should first decide if only she will enjoy in penetration or if her partner will join her too. If he experienced penetration before and he also liked it, then there’s no obstacle, but if he's only curious he should get accustomed to the feeling of penetration first. Start by playing with his buttocks, make him get accustomed to penetration by using your finger and wait until he is relaxed enough and decides it's time for penetration with a strap-on.

Wearing a strap-on should feel comfortable and you should make sure all the belts are properly adjusted; otherwise the person wearing it won't enjoy it. Try out different positions and use other techniques of stimulation and sex as well. Have fun experimenting!