Are You Sexually Compatible?

4.06.2010 | By: I. M.

Being sexually compatible can be more important in a relationship that you have ever imagined. Will the relationship even work if you are not sexually compatible?

Sexually compatible couples have more successful relationships. (Photoxpress)

Being sexually sincere is not the same as being sexually compatible

Besides having a fulfilling sexual life you also need sincerity in your relationship, but it is also very important to be sexually compatible with your partner.

Sexual compatibility means that the partners feel that special bond between them during sex and they simply know that they are sexually compatible and perfect for each other. Men often worry that they will turn their partners off if they have too many pleas and demands when it comes to sex. They are afraid that they will offend their partner by expressing their wishes. This is only one of the obstacles that men have to remove in order to get the 'reward'. The key to the reward is most likely in the hands of women. We all know that there is a great variety of acceptable and less acceptable sexual activities and fantasies. Whether they are acceptable to us or not can only be decided individually by each person. Each person decides for themselves about the boundaries of their sexuality. The risk of hurting somebody with our fantasies is sometimes so great that we prefer to keep them a secret because if we mentioned them the partner would surely react in a negative way. But if you try to express your desire for a new sexual position, a new sex toy or something else in a careful manner and with lots of consideration, you may be pleasantly surprised by your partner's reaction.

Expose yourselves and find out if you are sexually compatible

Fantasies are a very private and intimate matter of each individual, so it is nothing unusual that by telling your fantasies to your partner you feel totally exposed. And that's the way it should be. To find a sexually compatible partner you have to expose yourself to him or her. He or she should expose himself/herself to you and you should expose yourself to him or her. Your reactions will decide if you are ready to open yourself up and let him or her into your life or, if not, your relationship probably won't work out. People who are ready to reveal the most secret side of their personality are rewarded with the fulfillment of their most hidden fantasies as well as a passionate relationship. If the pair is not sexually compatible they usually break up sooner or later.

If you are not sexually compatible with your partner tensions may appear

It is important for achieving orgasm that you both know what you want in any given moment. If you are feeling playful but your partner is dreamy or vice versa, tension could easily arise. It is completely natural that two people cannot be in the same mood all the time and cannot have the same expectations about what they want, where and how they want it. Not even identical twins have the same sexual desire. The stress in everyday life enhances the need for honesty when it comes to sexuality. It is very important that the partner know what is going on in the other person's head. If you are lucky you will find out that you and your partner are on the same level which gives you a greater possibility to feel sexually compatible in bed. When you feel that sexuality does not bring you any pleasure for a loner period of time, it is advisable to seek professional help and visit a sexologist.