Do You Reach An Orgasm?

27.06.2010 | By: A. B.

Many women do not reach an orgasm because they feel too much pressure and they think they have to reach an orgasm with every sexual intercourse.




If you come only when masturbating, do not be concerned with that and try to reach an orgasm during intercourse as well. (Photoxpress)

If you come only when masturbating, do not be concerned with that and try to reach an orgasm during intercourse as well. (Photoxpress)
 

If you want to reach an orgasm do not let it be the ultimate goal

It is a known fact that you have to learn how to reach an orgasm. It is also known that many women still have problems with it. That is exactly why we want to talk about one of the major reasons why this happens. Some women need more and some women need less time to reach an orgasm. There are also different types of orgasm; some reach it simply by being orally pleasured, others only when being penetrated, some only when they masturbate. The problem arises when they have intercourse only for the sake of reaching an orgasm and then they are only waiting to come. In other words: they are not actually enjoying the intercourse, but they see it as foreplay to the orgasm. That is why they are impatient, in a hurry and they start worrying why they have not come and why everything takes so long during intercourse.

 

It does not matter how many time you need to reach an orgasm 

If you have time, use it. Why should you be in a hurry when you are doing it? Have a long foreplay session, get really hot and wait for the main course. Do not be concerned with what time it is. If it takes two hours, then it takes two hours. And just thinking why it takes so long makes it take so long. If you had intercourse without any worries about reaching an orgasm, it would definitely not take as long. Anyway, why should it take less time when it can take more time? Sexual intercourse is pure pleasure, so enjoy it all the way. Do it without checking the time and without wanting an orgasm. The orgasm will come on its own accord and when you do feel it coming, intensify the actions that led you to it. If it is cunnilingus, show your partner that he should keep going and that you really enjoy what he is doing. If it is about a certain sexual position, keep doing it and do not switch this position. Anyway, stick to the thing that pleases you most and of course let your partner know this as well.


Do not be sad if you fail to reach an orgasm

The problem of women who do not reach an orgasm is also in the fear of failing again. These women convince themselves that they cannot come anyway, so they think it is pointless even to try. This is a big mistake, from which nothing good will come. If you did not come the first time when you were being orally pleasured, that does not mean that the same thing will happen the second time. If you were not turned by the so-called doggy style the first time, who is to say it will not turn you on the next time? Do not give up so soon and keep on doing the things that hold the promise of an orgasm. Do not keep thinking that you cannot come anyway. This is not good and will really prevent you from reaching an orgasm. Your body is not always in the same mood for the same things. Sometimes one thing feels good, sometimes another. What does not feel good at one point, might really feel great the next time. Focus on the intercourse in the right way and do not believe that you are one of those women who cannot reach an orgasm just because you failed to come on a few occasions. And also do not concern yourself with the fact that you come only when you masturbate. This is normal and has nothing to do with orgasms during intercourse. Solo fun is one thing, intercourse is another.


Do not be embarrassed to do the things that will help you reach an orgasm

Some women do not reach an orgasm also because they are afraid to admit to their partners what really turns them on. They do different things during intercourse and constantly think what they would really like to be doing. Naturally, this means that they again worry about reaching an orgasm and that they will never achieve this. That is why we advise that these women tell their desires to their partners and ask them to do this for them. Why should they keep quiet and be denied some great pleasure? And why should women always do the things that do not turn them on enough? The condition for a good female orgasm is good intercourse, which should be done for the sake of pleasure. If you have intercourse only for the orgasm, you will be disappointed in the end.


Read more about difficulties with reaching an orgasm in our Lover's Guide.



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