Don’t Do Cunnilingus Like They Do It in Porn!

If you thought porn actors are good at orally pleasuring a woman, you’re very much mistaken. So how can you learn to do cunnilingus well?

 

 

 

To a man licking the crotch means moving the tongue very quickly. This strategy may be misguided. (jlp)

 

False representation of cunnilingus

The pornographic industry portrays cunnilingus in the wrong way, like a tongue pointing somewhere towards the female genitalia. Usually the tongue is nowhere near the clitoris in pornographic movies. Some men can’t ‘find their way’ around a woman’s body and wander in the dark. That’s why you may be an ideal candidate for reading one of the many guides about female genitalia. If you know, for example, that the clitoris can be quite hidden, you’ll know where to focus (and in what way) and why the clitoris protrudes out of the skin when it’s stimulated.

How does pornography mislead us?

 

Pornography promotes an unacceptable view of oral intercourse: quick movements of the tongue. It is worth remembering that if you’re moving the tongue quickly directly on the clitoris, especially at an early stage of foreplay, you won’t get a woman aroused. It’s true that some women like quick movements of the tongue, but only when they’re really aroused. For a start, it’s better to suck her with full, warm lips, do some quick movements next and continue with your entire mouth.

 

The essence of pornography is acting. Don't do cunnilingus like it is done in porn. (jlp)

 

Try to do cunnilingus by getting near to the clitoris in such a way that you’re licking the inside of her thighs first, then you continue to the pubic bone and push a little when you’re there.

The consequences of uncontrolled quick movements of the tongue

 

If you move your tongue really quickly in cunnilingus, the following will most likely happen:

-    Your tongue will become dry.

-    Even worse, her vagina will become dry.

-    Your dry tongue will pull on the skin around the clitoris in an unpleasant way.

 

Moving your tongue very quickly will simply cause dehydration. (jlp)


Basically, the most important thing is to suck onto her crotch like you want her to suck your penis. You want to do cunnilingus in a juicy and intense way, and without any real sudden movements.

Misleading information is popping up everywhere

There’s a lot of wrong information which swears by quick movements. A passage from a large book compiled by the editors of one of the most popular men’s magazines says that men have to move quickly on a woman’s clitoris and that they can’t touch the labia with their lips. Wrong! It’s exactly uncontrolled, express movements that usually disappoint women.

The author continues by saying that you can’t stifle the clitoris with your lips because you’ll numb the tissue. But the reality is exactly the opposite – the clitoris does like isolated touching (with the tongue), but the whole area enjoys gentle sucking and pressure.

Is it really so difficult to ask the woman?

 

It’s important to know what your partner likes and you shouldn’t be afraid to ask her if she likes what you’re doing and if you’re on the right track. It bears recalling that she also doesn’t know everything about her body, so it would be perfectly normal if you helped her explore her body.

 

Why is it so hard to ask people what they like most? (jlp) 

 

But we unfortunately take advice from other people instead of employing the easiest strategy – of asking what someone wants directly.

The biggest mistake both men and women do is believing that they don’t have to learn anything new about intercourse because they’re already good (enough) at everything. But sexuality is a living thing and everyone sees and feels it differently; it changes with time and under different circumstances. If you want to be good in bed, you have to know how to adapt, listen, watch, and learn things.

 

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