Don’t pretend to be enjoying it!

7.09.2011 | By: Antonio B

If you pretend that you’re aroused by something you’re not during intercourse, sex will soon turn into a nightmare. Express your desires!

You have to tell your partners even your most secret desires if you really want to enjoy sex. (PhotoXpress)

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You have to tell your wishes to your partners

The point of good sex is letting go, considering your partners’ desires, them considering your desires and doing all the things that turn you on. That’s why it’s not a good idea to be quiet and think that your partners will think your desires are strange and that they may even judge you. Women usually have more problems with this. They’re afraid their men will look at them like prostitutes, which means they wouldn’t really see them as the marrying kind. This is naturally not good because it deprives them of pleasure and they have sex which is always missing something. On the other hand, men are afraid their partners will say no and consider their desires too perverted and will even react angrily. It’s always important to talk about such matters, that’s why we advise you to do it as soon as possible and let your partners know, in a nice and friendly way, what you want, what you want to try, what’s missing and what you fantasise about. Even though the initial reaction may be a bit turbulent, don’t give up and keep explaining, or wait for the next appropriate moment and handle sharing your desires in a different way.

Prejudices should be left in front of the bedroom

Most prejudices are completely unnecessary and such that you will even laugh at them later. They’re only in your head and wouldn’t even exist if you honestly discussed them with your partners. Women are usually prejudiced towards anal intercourse, sperm, deep throat, rougher sex and some naughty domination, for example. Men don’t know how to express these desires in an appropriate way, they keep quiet and suppress their desires deep within themselves, which means they’re unhappy and constantly dissatisfied with their sexual life. Dear gentlemen, the biggest mistake you can do is to cheat only because you’re convinced your partner won’t want to try certain things. You have to first ask yourself if you even told her what you want. If you did, ask yourselves in what way you told her. Were you persistent enough, did you do certain things gradually and without forcing her into them? A kind word goes a long way, you only have to be patient, especially if she’s a woman with no experience in such matters and is a bit conservative.

Tactics for the most secret desires

Start with a cunning approach and in such a way that you don’t insult your partner, so that she doesn’t get the feeling you’re dissatisfied with your current sexuality and that you would only derive satisfaction from the things you fantasise about. We also advise women not to think along those lines, they shouldn’t get the feeling that their men just don’t find normal sex interesting anymore and that they’re only really turned on by those things that they haven’t done for them so far. Dear ladies, it’s not about that, it’s only about dessert, an addition to spice up the sex. These are merely things your men like and would like to do them occasionally. The same applies to you. You should also tell the men your desires and don’t be afraid that they’re going to look at you in the wrong way. For example, tell them you want more cunnilingus, you also want to have your anus licked, you want to try sex in public and so on. Don’t be ashamed of your desires. Don’t suppress them and fantasise about someone else. Your partners can make all your wishes come true, if you only tell these to them. Like we’ve already said, revealing your desires takes patience and gradual introduction and tasting. It’s even better if these things happen spontaneously and because of passion, meaning that they happen on their own.