Don't Think You Are the Best Lover!

30.11.2010 | By: T. B.

A good lover is a self-confident lover. Can a lover be too self-confident to improve in bed?

Consideration and satisfaction of other people’s desires is very important is sex life. (Photoxpress)

A self-confident lover is like a dream – until it turns into a real nightmare

A great lover who knows what to do in bed, who descends to your genitals without saying a word and who demonstrates a great skill in his performance is every woman’s dream. However, there can also be too much of the good. Although it is sometimes nice to let yourself go and enjoy skillful touches, and although it is sometimes nice if words aren’t needed, it is also very nice and considerate if you ask your partner what she wants. If you don’t ask her, at least listen to her when she speaks.

When self-confidence turns into selfishness

There is a thin line between a positive self-image and excessive self-confidence. The former produces excellent results and the latter produces very negative results. There is such a thin line, but still such a great difference that can affect a person’s decision to leave or stay. Your excessive self-confidence in bed means that you think you know everything. You never know everything and there is always room for improvement, regardless of whether you have sexual intercourse for the first time or you have been together for ages. After many years, you also have to be aware that you don’t know everything. A lover who is too convinced becomes deaf. He wants satisfaction and has discovered a quick way to achieve it. Why would he listen to a woman’s instructions and drive slowly and look at the scenery? In the end, she will attain her goal, but on his own terms. When you fondle your woman exactly in the same way you have fondled her a million times before, she might whisper to your ear to do something differently. But you won't hear her. Maybe you consider her for a moment, but you will soon return to your old ways. You don’t want to hear that she wants to change the routine. Why would you burden yourself with that? You have managed to give her incredible pleasure so many times. Instead of making a stop, ride onwards with self-confidence. And the label self-confident lover is joined by another label, a selfish lover. Suddenly, you drop from the first place to the last one because a selfish lover is the worst lover.

When self-confidence stimulates telepathic abilities

Both excessive self-confidence and excessive inferences are wrong. When a man forms his opinion about himself, his partner and their sex life on the basis of previous experience, it is difficult to persuade him that he is wrong. Namely, he doesn’t know it because he has acted in that way so many times that he could even perform it in his sleep. It is even worse when he makes his partner sleepy and doesn’t even notice it.
If the partner is too confident, even an extremely large penis won't help if the connection between the partners is lost.