What To Do If You Lose the Erection?

30.07.2010 | By: I. M.

If you lose the erection during intercourse don't do things that will make it even worse!

If a man loses erection during the intercourse his partner often puts blame on herself. (Photoxpress)

Many factors can influence the erection, at the beginning of intercourse as well as during. Some men lose the erection in the middle of intercourse which is very hard to understand for women who often feel rejected, frustrated or even angry. This a wrong approach because an extra pressure will cause a man to feel pressure at the next intercourse. So you should definitely find a more constructive way to solve the problem.

1. Do not blame him for losing erection

People who feel frustrated like to put blame on somebody else. When the intercourse cannot be continued and the penetration is not possible, women make a mistake and place the guilt on the partner, even though they know that such accusations are illogical and unfair. No man wants to lose his erection in the middle of action. It also does not mean that his partner does not excite him anymore or that he has become impotent. It is only an unpleasant accident which you have to overcome in order to continue the intercourse.

A woman cannot be blamed for problems with erection although many men divert the attention to their partner and blame her for all the troubles. Instead of erection problems, the matter of discussion suddenly becomes the fact that she has not achieved a climax yet, certain sexual positions, etc. The partners then slowly forget the key fact which is that none of them is guilty.

When a man loses erection you should not look for a scapegoat but find a way to become aroused again. Before you go back into action, lie in bed for a few minutes which will bring you closer, give you new energy and awaken your lust.

2. If he loses erection the intercourse does not have to end

If your partner loses erection the intercourse is far from over. Therefore you should not stop and have the unnecessary debate about what went wrong. If it is possible and if you know the erection will come back with changing the sexual position, then do it.

If you feel that oral intercourse would return you back into play, then change the penetration to oral intercourse and the erection will be back in a moment. If you think that you will become aroused if your partner starts to tease herself then 'order' her to do it. The woman should not be afraid to ask if she can help in any way. Whatever you do, do not walk out of bed because nothing will be solved in this way.

3. Do not forget about your partner

If you think that you lost your erection because you need a little pause, do not forget about your partner. She is probably very aroused so you should make sure it stays this way until you are ready for action again. You can suggest oral stimulation, manual stimulation, different erotic toys...the possibilities are endless. If she reaches an orgasm, so much the better.

4. Do not be passive-aggressive

If you lose the erection and cannot continue the intercourse because of it, then it is very important to choose the right manner of communication which will not cause the negative feelings of quilt, anger, sadness or arguments. You should stay calm and the partner should be understanding. If the intercourse is over then the bed is the perfect place for an honest conversation, romance and hugging.