Fresh Sex with a New Partner

What are the things that are good to know before having intercourse with a new partner?

Talk to your new partner about sexually transmitted diseases. (jlp)


You met someone with whom you really get along, although you only know each other for a few days, and maybe you have even fallen in love with the person. Your sexual attraction is felt ever more strongly and it's only a matter of time when you go to bed together. It's ok to have a good time but before taking the next step, don't forget a few important things ...

Get to know him or her better

Even though your new partner may seem almost perfect, don't rush or be too naive. Jumping into bed with someone whose past is a mystery to you can be very dangerous.

Don't expect too much from fresh sex with a new partner. (jlp)


Many sexually transmitted diseases like chlamydia, genital herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis or infection with the HIV virus often show no symptoms at first glance, so it's difficult to judge if someone is infected with one of them.

Ask your new partner how long it has been since they were last tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Even if they were in only one serious relationship before you, this doesn't mean that the other person was completely faithful. If they haven't been tested for sexually transmitted diseases, don't be ashamed to suggest it. You can get tested together, so you're both acquainted with the results of each other and can indulge in intercourse without any doubts.

Don't expect too much and relax

Now that you know your new partner is healthy, you can also get rid of stress. Don't be afraid of performing badly or not living up to your partner’s expectations. Don't expect too much from your first intercourse either. Fresh sex is about getting to know and discovering your partner’s body and not about a perfect sexual performance.

New partner, new ways. Don't count on the old ones. (jlp)


What drove your ex wild may not necessarily work for your current flame. But don't worry about that. Finding out about different stimuli can be fun and you may learn something new.

Don't give in to your nerves. If you feel you're under great pressure, postpone your fresh sex. There'll be plenty of time to sexually explore each other’s bodies, so make sure you're both ready and relaxed when you have intercourse for the first time together.

Be ready for surprises

 

The times when men and women had sexual relations only in the missionary position and when they thought they had broken new ground when they found the clitoris are long gone. Besides the many positions commonly used nowadays, there are also oral and anal intercourse, and great many sexual accessories.

Don't miss the opportunity to try new things with a new partner. (jlp)


If you're used to vanilla sex, don't be afraid of a vibrator or any other sexual accessory your partners may have on their shelves. It may be that the object isn't placed there by accident and your partner wanted to use it during your intercourse. Even though you have never done it anally, don't be afraid if your partner suggests this or asks you to try it. Maybe you'll begin to enjoy discovering new ways of lovemaking. If you don't like the idea, this is fine as well and your new partner will just have to accept that.

 

 

 

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