Get to an Orgasm with a Bit of Egotism

6.03.2010 | By: T. B.

How can a bit of egotism benefit both you and your lover? Egotism isn't necessarily a bad thing, it is actually indispensable on our way to orgasm.

When you close your eyes, your fantasy world can get you to an orgasm quickly. Everyone needs a bit of egotism in bed. (jlp)

Even though we usually can’t stress enough the importance of giving, of open communication, of getting into the spirit of things and understanding your partner during intercourse, this time we will turn the story around. But only in connection with that moment right before orgasm. Yes, a bit of egotism is indispensable when it comes to good sex.

Sometimes, just before an orgasm, when the pleasant tension is at its peak, when we’re looking into our partner’s eyes and we feel that the moment is magic, it happens that we don’t come. This may happen because we’re too focused on our partner, if for no other reason!

In such moments, you can close your eyes without a guilty conscience. You must focus on yourself and your feelings. Muster up a tad of egotism and concentrate on your orgasm. You can surrender to your fantasies. Think of the moments when you’re masturbating and you're relaxed. Try to put a part of this into your intercourse.

Especially women have to take care to occasionally focus only on themselves. (jlp)

The quality of sex won’t suffer because of this. It's quite the opposite. If you worked hard before and focused on one another in the way you know suits you best, these small moments of egotism can be the cherry on top.

Women have more problems focusing on themselves instead of on their partners. They are generally more considerate to their lovers. This characteristic often brings them trouble, also when it comes to reaching an orgasm, which is a shame and unnecessary.