Help, My Partner Has An Unusual Fetish!

What do you do when your partner suddenly tells you that he or she has a wild and perhaps even an unusual fetish that in no way corresponds with your sexual practices?

Fetishes are a regular part of one’s sexual life and there’s no reason to be afraid of them. (Photoxpress)

Unsual sexual fetishes

Fetishes are a regular part of one’s sexual life. These specific and selected things have a special power on an individual to arouse his or her sexual desire and trigger his or her arousal. People have had fetishes throughout the history; they were present both in primitive tribes and a modern society. The basis of a fetish is already formed in childhood. Some fetishes are less noticeable, while others are more explicit, but almost everyone has them. A fetish adds ‘something extra’ to sexual intercourse and often gives the additional sexual pleasure. Many psychologists and sexologists agree, but at the same time warn about another occurrence, i.e. an addiction to fetishes. Sometimes love for a fetish turns into an addiction to fetishes, leading to the state in which the sexual activity or arousal of a person isn’t possible without them. However, fetishes aren’t something you should be afraid of. After all, sex is a game where novelties and experiments are always welcome.

Don’t panic if your partner has an unusual fetish

 As communication is vital for great sexual life, it’s best that you share each other’s desires and fantasies. When you have such a conversation with your partner, always make sure that you tell each other everything, but you still have to be aware that your partner can surprise you as regards his new desires at any moment and suggest a slightly more daring fetish, irrespective of how good you think you know your partner. Therefore, don’t be surprised if he or she wants to lick your feet, suck you toes, be dominant, play different roles, give you the golden shower, use new erotic toys or desire bondage. If his or her fantasies indicate a drastic, new turn in your sexual life, don’t panic because he or she’ll never trust you again and your communication will be automatically blocked. Listen to you partner’s desires, and if you have difficulties in satisfying them, you rather use other tactics instead of rejecting the desires immediately. Ask your partner why he or she finds the fetish sexy and what exactly is arousing for him or her in this sexual practice. Your partner may convince you with the right reply.

Watch a porn movie

Therefore, your partner told you that he or she wants you to become the master for one night and he or she’ll be your obedient slave. Did you partner tell you that he or she wants to be tied up, handcuffed and spanked properly? Take as much time as you need for you final ‘yes’ because some courage is also needed in performing daring new things in your sexual life. The first time, you’re always afraid of whether or not you’ll perform well and, in addition, you want your partner to be totally pleased with you and your sexual life. If you’ve decided to be his or her master or punisher, try to find out more about the real techniques. Therefore, you can read more about the fetish you intend to perform on the Internet, or watch a porn movie about it and then imitate the porn actors or actresses. You can also add some of your own ideas and your partner will, without doubt, be thrilled about your performance.

Will our relationship change?

If you’re worried that your partner will look at you in a strange way because of spanking, bondage, licking shoes or peeing, or form an opinion about you as being strange, you can feel at ease. The same applies to you because you won’t love your partner any less after he or she acts on a fetish. The fetish can, without doubt, even forge a stronger bond between you and takes your sex life a step further. You may even like the new thing so much that you’ll want to practise it as often as possible. Don’t be afraid of experimenting, even if it involves something that you’ve always found peculiar. If you think clearly about everything, you can say: “Well, it’s just peeing, only this time it’ll be on his body.”

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