How to discover your erogenous zones?

Many women can’t have an orgasm because they don’t know what turns them on. How and with whose help to push the right buttons?

 

Some women can’t reach an orgasm because they don’t know what exactly turns them on. (jlp)

 

Problems reaching an orgasm

 

Regardless of the fact that women are completely sexually liberated, many of them still have problems with reaching an orgasm. The technical term for this difficulty is anorgasmia. There can be many reasons for such a condition. We mostly divide them into psychological and physical reasons. The reason which we will discuss this time belongs into both groups. Besides all the medical and psychological reservations, it’s also possible that women simply don’t know what exactly turns them on, whether this is because they have certain preconceptions about sex or because they have not yet investigated their body well enough.

 

Discover your sexuality together with your partner.

 

Who can you talk to about this problem?

 

People become their own best doctors and sexologists only when they really get to know their body and the response of the body to certain stimuli. Better choices than a doctor for a conversation about discovering your sexuality are sexologists or sexual therapists. They lead people to the final goal through various steps. Therapists also naturally have to ask awkward and direct questions, which you have to answer truthfully, so that they can start discovering the ‘patient’s’ sexuality. Sexual therapists are very much in favour of masturbation because one of its positive consequences is getting to know your own body. Quality bioenergetics experts can also help you deal with these problems.

 

Talking to a sexual therapist could help you get rid of problems. (jlp)

Discovering your own body

 

In order for people to discover the characteristics of their own sexuality, they must first investigate their own body and discover the ways in which the body reacts to certain erotic stimuli. Women can do this by first finding out if they like only clitoral stimulation of the vagina or if they prefer penetration. They may need both to reach an orgasm. Some women like long foreplay, while for others foreplay isn’t stimulatory. Sexual therapists and sexologists generally strongly encourage women not to be ashamed of looking at their own vaginas. It’s advisable that women have no reservations about admiring their own vaginas in front of the mirror even during masturbation. A little while ago, American model Tyra Banks also took initiative for a sexual movement where she taught American women to love their vaginas. The famous talk-show host Oprah also joined in on this.

 

Learn to love your body and your vagina.

 

You also have to have an understanding partner

 

You also have to talk with your partner about what stimuli arouse you. Only talking about what turns you on and what makes you come more easily will get rid of shyness, fears and all the unpleasant feelings which are attached to your sexuality. In such a case it’s good if you have a partner who can listen and is prepared to try many things for your pleasure and discover your sexuality together with you.  

 

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