How to get rid of sexual problems?

24.06.2009 | By: Antonio B

Many sexual disturbances can occur to men and women. This is our advice on how to handle these problems...

Sexual disturbances have to be solved together.

You have to find the reasons together

Sexuality is a matter of two people, so don’t allow one individual to handle the problems alone. Show some understanding and be there. Find the reasons together and try to solve the problems with a joint effort as well. Men most commonly experience a drop in their sex drive, meaning a drop in potency. This is a situation where a man cannot join with his partner sexually. Often, the problem is psychological in nature and it reflects the mental situation. The woman must always be involved when it comes to getting rid of disturbances, seeing as she knows her man best. If there’s no other way, you can also see a specialist. So, don’t be embarrassed and don’t sweep your problems under the carpet. Your partner should be understanding because this is the only way to get past this crisis.

A man should only have sex with a woman he’s really attracted to and who really turns him on. (jlp)

A starter course for getting rid of sexual disturbances

If a man wants to prevent possible disturbances in his sexual life, it’s a good idea to get to know the woman, his own anatomy and seek out all possible and hidden zones of arousal. He should not get sexually close to the woman too soon, but only after he has connected with her, when they know each other well and when they can share very intimate things. In this way, he will not get an inferiority complex and he also won’t be afraid of not performing well during the first intercourse. It’s also very advisable for a man to only have sex with a woman he really wants, meaning that he doesn’t just do it for a hobby and because of sexual gratification. He should only go to bed with a woman who really turns him on and is wildly attractive to him.

Women can also help solve their sexual disturbances with masturbation.

Don’t give up after the first intercourse

A big mistake that men should never do is breaking off all contact with a woman after a bad first sexual experience. This can make him feel badly and he can lose self-confidence, especially if he didn’t perform all that well. That’s why it’s good to repeat a hot date and try to do things differently. First intercourse can’t always be good because the partners don’t know one another well enough, which means that there’s a good chance that not everything is going to go according to plan. On the second date, focus on her erogenous zones and do the things that really turn her on. Try to forget the mistakes of the first date and surrender to this new passion that her body is showing you. It’s very bad if you try to get past your jitters with alcohol or even drugs because, in the end, this will have exactly the opposite effect.

A man who doesn’t care about the woman’s orgasm can make her feel less self-confident.

Avoid men who don’t care about your orgasm

Men often wrongly think that women have no problems in sex. They just spread their legs and enjoy. They have no potency problems and they can simply moisten their crotch with some saliva or lubricant. It’s naturally wrong to think like that because a woman isn’t happy if she’s not enjoying sex and doesn’t get to a climax. A precondition for real pleasure is, of course, knowing your body and masturbation can be very handy with this because a woman finds out the rules for reaching her climax. When we speak about intercourse, a woman should let her partner know what turns her on and what he has to do to her if he wants her to have an orgasm. That’s why women should avoid men who are egotists in bed and don’t care about the female orgasm. The worst thing she can do is to fake an orgasm. She’s naturally only lying to herself. The circumstances under which intercourse happens are also very important. If the woman is nervous, in a hurry and if she’s bothered by her surroundings, it’s not good because she’s not relaxed and there will, naturally, be no orgasm. It’s also important that the intercourse doesn’t happen with a man she doesn’t find attractive enough, which means that you still have to follow your heart and not just your crotch.

If you’re not embarrassed, you can go see a sexologist and tell him/her your problems. (jlp)

Seeing a sexologist

If all the aforementioned things don’t help to get rid of your problems, you might have to see a sexologist. Sexologists are specialists in this area. You have to come to the sessions together. You also have to tell everything that’s on your mind. A sexologist, who we can also call a psychiatrist of the crotch, is a very recommendable solution for couples who aren’t embarrassed to talk about their sexual problems. When you talk, you can come to new realizations and findings, which might have been hidden and repressed deep in the subconscious before. If the sexologist doesn’t work, the disturbance is probably physical and medication or even an operation might have to be considered. Still, most sexual disturbances form in the mind, which means that an honest talk and your partner’s trust can do away with them, or perhaps the aforementioned methods, which definitely work in practice.