How to raise your self-confidence in bed (Part 1)

27.06.2012 | By: Antonio B

Read this advice which will turn you into a self-confident and passionate lover.

Your fears that your vagina is unattractive or even ugly are completely unnecessary because men look at these matters totally differently. (PhotoXpress)

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Raise your self-confidence #1: Contraception pills

Every woman has to test the effectiveness of her contraception pills occasionally and take breaks in between the time she uses them. A lot of time might have passed from the moment your gynaecologist prescribed you a certain type of medication, which means that you might have gained or lost weight, or had your first child. This means that your body isn’t responding the same way to a certain type of pill, so you have to see a gynaecologist, who’ll prescribe a new kind of pill or advise you to stop taking the pill for a few months and clean your body of hormones. Pills are still the most appropriate and practical method for prevention of pregnancy that women prefer to use, even though this may sound a bit egotistical from a male point of view. You don’t have to stop taking the pills, you should only check if they’re still right and take a break for about half a year. During that time your partner will have to make do with condoms and he’ll have no right to complain.

Raise your self-confidence #2: Pain during penetration isn’t normal

Let there be no mistake – we’re not talking about the moment when all reservations go away and when rough penetration occurs and some pain even gives you pleasure. We’re also not talking about feeling some stinging at the start because you’re not aroused enough and the vagina isn’t moist enough for the penetration of the penis. We’re talking about moments when sexual intercourse is painful day after day. This is definitely not good and you should go see a doctor. You should be honest and tell him or her what’s going on. In most cases it’s only a mild inflammation of the bladder, which naturally disturbs your enjoyment of intercourse.

Raise your self-confidence #3: Your vagina is beautiful and that’s that

Women often worry that their vagina isn’t beautiful enough and that their partners won’t find it attractive or sexy enough. Some are troubled by labia that are too big, others by a clitoris that’s too small, some by the colour of the labia and others by something completely different. Dear ladies, your worries are completely unnecessary. Your man will like your vagina in any case, especially if he wants to do it and if you show it to him in a very naughty way. It’s also known that some men like meatier vaginas, while others like “tidy” vaginas. It’s also true that women with bigger and more pronounced labia have better orgasms. Dear ladies, you should be proud of your vagina, so don’t worry about how it looks, but only about how to enjoy yourself with it.

Raise your self-confidence #4: Sexual accessories are great

Why should we fight them off and think that only couples who are bored, perverted and immoral use them. Sexual accessories will spice up your sexuality. You’ll have fun with them and you’ll enjoy them. We’re talking about vibrators, Japanese beads, strap-ons, plugs, butterflies, penis rings, colourful condoms, chocolate panties and other things. It doesn’t hurt to try all of the things we mentioned. If you like it, you can use it regularly and if you don’t, you can leave it on the shelf. Let’s also not forget that a pillow with a naughty shape or a stuffed teddy bear can also come in very handy.

Raise your self-confidence #5: Men are showing you their love with intercourse

Women need tenderness and a feeling of security and men sometimes want to show these two with wanting to have relations with you. So don’t see their offer as the gratification of a physical need because he wants to do it with you and not some other girl. He wants your body, your closeness, your breasts and your vagina. Even though it’s only so-called “make up” intercourse, don’t turn him down because this is a step towards reconciliation for a man, which means that he’s sorry he made a mistake. Anyway, why should you not want to have intercourse where you’ll also enjoy yourselves and where you and your partner are really one entity, especially if he makes an effort during foreplay and embraces and caresses you after the intercourse as well.