How to Say No to Your Partner's Suggestions in Bed

A threesome? Swinging? Anal sex? Spanking? A finger up the anus? You don't feel like trying this? How to say no to your partner's suggestions?

 

 

If you don't feel like doing something, don't force yourself. (jlp)

 

Discovering new positions and techniques, anal intercourse, or stimulating your anus, all of this can be healthy for your sex life and your libido. But a partner’s request can simply be completely unacceptable for you. Stand up for yourself, even at the moment when you're in a doggy position.

 

Numerous men aren't enthusiastic about anal experiments.

 

It is good for you to know that your partner is a sexually healthy person and as such has fantasies. There is nothing wrong if your partner asks you if you would like to become part of their sexual fantasy. A person who loves you will understand if you decline. They will respect the choice you make, even though it is not what they have hoped for. But you too must respect your partner. If your girlfriend suggests swinging, it is inappropriate for you to accuse her of being perverted and of not loving you. The fact that she shared her fantasy with you means that she trusts you.

Before your mind is firmly set on not doing what your partner wants between the sheets, think about it carefully. Maybe their suggestion is not as bad as it first seems? How can you be sure that you won't like something if you've never tried it? Maybe it will spice up your sex life.

 

You can always try with a compromise. (jlp)

 

People are different. Some will find it inappropriate if their partner suggests doing it in the open or in a car. Others want to be whipped and verbally abused.

If you reject an unusual request because it means going down an unknown path, then perhaps it is time for you to relax a little. Sex is an endless universe of countless dimensions for you to discover and enjoy.

Think about reaching a compromise: “Darling, I will not put on a mask or whip you, but you can buy me leather S&M lingerie with needles, which will gently prick you when we shag.”

 

Some fantasies should remain fantasies.

 

“I really don't feel like you licking my toes, but I adore foot massage, which you can spice up by gently kissing my feet.”

 

If the desire is too great and you cannot reach a compromise, it is time to say no to your partner. Your wishes come first and you do not have to make every fantasy of your partner’s come true. Besides, some fantasies should remain just fantasies.

 

If your partner loves you, they will accept your saying no to their suggestion. (jlp)

 

Some more advice on how to gently say no to your partner:

• Show love and devotion (kiss them or hug them after you reject them)
• Do not insult your partner or pull faces
• Say that you never want to do this, or say that this just does not feel right at the moment - whatever you think is true
• Say that you really enjoy your life together and your sex life
• You can suggest an alternative

 

You have your fantasies as well. You may never share them with anyone, but they are there just like with your partner. And there is nothing wrong with fantasies, right?

 

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