How to Turn Your Man into a “Sexpert”?

11.10.2010 | By: Z.J.

All men want to be good lovers. Why not help him to become a real sexpert?

Turn your man into a sexpert! (Photoxpress)

If you want a real sexpert in bed, you don’t have to walk a million miles and look for a needle in a haystack. Simply follow some simple tips and you’ll fall in love with your own creation.

1. Get to know yourself!

This ancient Greek aphorism can be transported into the field of sexuality as well: get to know your body because you can’t expect that someone will know what turns you on and pleases you better than you. Explore your body with masturbation, use erotic accessories, movies, books and, most often, your own imagination and naturally try it out on yourself. Find out which parts of the body are more sensitive because the erogenous zones aren’t the same for every woman. Discover your optimum speed, pressure, time of day,…

2. Create a sensual atmosphere

It’s known that women need much more foreplay than most men. Start intercourse slowly, like with a sensual massage with massage oil. Create the atmosphere which stimulates all the senses: use scents (perfumes, scented candles, etc.), sounds (find out which music relaxes you and gives you a sexual charge), images (soft lighting, for example, belongs here), touch (silk sheets).

3. Guide his hand

Gently cover his palm and he’ll unconsciously follow you and discover your special erogenous zones, your rhythm, the intensity of pressure and other things along the way.

4. Don’t forget the body language

When he pushes the right buttons, show him by moaning louder. When he’s really good, don’t hesitate to show him with your entire body. Soon you’ll be writhing with pleasure every time.

5. Cover his eyes

Many people have a hard time totally relaxing if they know someone is watching them. If you’re shy, cover his eyes with a silk kerchief and surrender to his exploration or your experimentation without any hindrances. You’ll discover many things about yourself, as will your partner, who’ll start feeling the other senses more when he’s missing the sensory stimuli from one of the senses.

6. Confide your fantasies to one another!

Sometimes fantasies are a hard thing to share, but if you follow the “give-take” principle, the mission isn’t all that impossible any more. You can tell them in a game, like in drinking games.

7. Erotic toys are allies, not competition

Men supposedly love toys. Just think of the cars, wireless keyboards, amplifiers and don’t get me started on computer games. But when it comes to erotic toys, they sometimes have a hard time accepting them, especially if they’re shaped like a phallus. Start with innocent butterflies, ducks and other flora and fauna. Make him see that his penis is still your favorite toy, even though it doesn’t vibrate (this “problem” can also be solved – with a toy, of course).

8. The key word is respect

The key to fulfilling sexual life is mutual respect. When you create the sexpert you want, be respectful and encouraging the whole time and the “instructions” should sound positive. “I really like it when you’re gentle” sounds much better than “Don’t be so rough”, doesn’t it?