Is It Possible to Have Sex with No Attachment?

Is having a "fuck buddy" really as easy as it sounds? Is it possible to develop no attachment towards the person you're sleeping with?

 

A lot of people don't feel the need to be in a serious relationship. (jlp)

You may not believe this, but there are people who spend their whole lives without having a serious relationship and who rather have intercourse with no attachment getting in the way. And they get along just fine. Women are believed to be more emotional, so the desire to feel only a sexual attraction for someone is often weaker than the feelings that develop during casual sex. Men usually have no problems with this, but there are always exceptions. Let us just say that if a man decides to have a strictly sexual relationship with a certain woman, with no attachment whatsoever, he will usually be able to do it more easily than a woman. This is just like with dieting, where patterns show that men achieve their desired goal more easily than women.

When the sexual relationship with no strings attached functions perfectly ...

No talking, no limits, no nervous tension, just crazy wild “fucking” without any commitments and with no attachment. It can be a dream come true, but it functions only if both individuals are ready for it. It is easiest if the two people having casual sex are incredibly physically attracted to one another, but are not attracted to the other person in any other way.

If we want a sexual relationship with no attachment to work just fine, we have to cling to a few rules. (jlp)


The people should be strong if they attempt to do something like this and they must have clear goals about what they want – only sex with no emotions and no attachment. It is best if the expectations are discussed in advance, so that there are no misunderstandings later.

What to do if one of the people falls in love?

If the two people having casual intercourse with no attachment get along, respect each other, etc., there is a greater chance that they will be able to develop a deeper relationship.

But what can you do if the feelings develop only in one person?

Sex with no attachment is more "dangerous" for women (who tend to be more emotional). (jlp)


This is a very awkward situation, but quite frequent – especially with women. If a person falls in love, she often does not let the sexual partner know her true feelings for fear of losing him. Gradually, she becomes jealous of his flirting or relationships with other people and feelings of reproach and betrayal often pop up as well, seeing that he feels no attachment.

If you have come to this point, do not pretend that it will work out and just admit to yourself that this is going nowhere. It takes two people for a relationship to work, so shutting your eyes will get you nowhere. Even though your sex is fantastic, bombastic and generally amazing, do not postpone your decision but end the "relationship" as soon as possible for your own good.

Can casual sex with no attachment turn into a serious relationship?

As I have already said, the chances of sex with no attachment turning into something more are very slim. Especially, if one of the people has goals that are very clearly set. But if you feel like you fell in love and you sense that the other person has some feelings for you too, you can try taking the relationship to the next level.

If you fall in love and the other person doesn't, move on! (jlp)

It is best if you sit down and talk about your feelings and other common interests. It is very possible you fell in love only with the ideal sex or with the feeling that someone finally accepts you for who you really are. This can of course be misleading, so watch your steps.

 

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