Body Language that Leads to Sex

30.03.2010 | By: T. G.

Are you aware of the considerable impact of your body language on how you get along with other people as well as on how attractive and sexy you are?

Appearance isn’t everything. (Photoxpress)

Your social skills determine how successful you’re at dating, especially on your first date. They also help you make a smooth transition from a social relationship to a sexual relationship in appropriate circumstances.

The meaning of body language

At the beginning of a relationship, words are too rough to exchange subtle shades of emotional experience between two people. Messages such as “I like you” are generally expressed by body language, i.e. the communication system based on how people stand, move around and observe the environment around them. Both persons engaged in interaction respond to body language, though they probably aren’t even aware of that. Everyone uses body language, but not everyone uses it to their advantage. Shy people often send wrong signals without being aware of it and thus evoke completely wrong responses in people. They express boredom, indifference and even unkindness. That's why you have to learn how to read and use body language.

Eye contact

When you talk to someone, it’s not polite to look over their shoulder or to the floor. The former means shyness and the latter means perfidy. Most people like eye contact in 5-second intervals every half a minute. This shows that you’re interested in the conversation and that you don’t feel embarrassed when asked questions. Eye contact is one of the easiest and most direct ways to show that you’re interested in someone sexually. If you’re shy and you meet a person that you’re attracted to, you might feel a bit uneasy to look straight into their eyes.

Facial expressions aren’t a reflection of the current well-being

If you’re often asked whether you’re all right, but in reality you feel splendid, you’ve obviously been misunderstood. However, a happy and beautiful smile works wonders, irrespective of the devil that might be hidden in you. Unfortunately, telecommunications services are increasingly more used and it seems as if people no longer have time to stop and think for a minute or longer. Thus, people who frown are unlikely to attract attention of someone because they don’t look attractive at first glance. Smiling, particularly an honest smile, works wonders, while bluffing is easy to detect.

Some physical gestures can have a negative effect. (Photoxpress)

Gestures

You can use your hands to stress your words and show interest. The easiest way to learn appropriate gestures is to watch other people. For instance, when you nod to a person, you encourage them and, at the same time, show your interest in what they’re saying.

Posture

It’s difficult to believe, but if you stand straight and keep your head up, you’ll feel much more confident. When you go on the first date, don’t stand too close to or too far from the person. Intrusion into the personal space has its price. When you overstep the boundaries, the relationship becomes more intimate. If you’re standing too far away, it indicates arrogance or even mistrust.

Physical contact

You’ll find out that the tempo of a sexual relationship is actually determined by increasingly longer and more frequent caressing. The pace of intimate seduction is still mostly determined by men, but women are, of course, expected to let men know if they want to increase the pace. If you gently touch a man’s hand with your finger, this gesture has more sexual energy than putting your hand on his hand.

Beyond body language: the art of conversation

Conversation is the basic component of social life. Those who’ve mastered the art of conversation can make a good first impression on people and things work themselves out in the first stages of a relationship. Just remember, it’s better to be skilful in conversation than a good rhetoric.