Reasons for the Lack of Intercourse

25.10.2010 | By: I. M.

If the lack of intercourse in your relationship is getting problematic, then you should figure out why!

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Reason for the lack of intercourse #1: Hectic lifestyle

Because of the fast tempo of life many couples have no time or energy to spend some intimate moments with each other at the end of the day. Some couples then realize that they are living together as if they were roommates and share common responsibilities but they have forgotten about intimacy a long time ago. If this is the reason for lack of sexual intercourse in your relationship, then it is very important that you and your partner organize your time and schedule which day or evening during the week will be intended only for you two.

Reason for the lack of intercourse #2: Taking your partner for granted

One of the reasons for lack of intercourse is also taking your partner for granted. Such attitude usually occurs when the sexual life between the partners is bad in general, whether out of boredom, emotional inhibitions, laziness or bad experiences. You should both understand that sexual gratification is one of the basic human needs which is most easily fulfilled with someone you love.

Reason for the lack of intercourse #3: Lack of sexual desire

Some partners in a long-term relationship forget about the importance of sex appeal in the bedroom. It doesn't so much have to do with body shape, but also with personal hygiene, maybe even hair removal, special scent or sexy underwear.

Reason for the lack of intercourse #4: Lack of communication

It is also possible that your moments in bed became dull despite strong love and affection. What is missing here is probably sincere communication about your sexual wishes. There's nothing wrong if you start a conversation about what you want in bed and ask about your partner's wishes. Express yourself in a non-aggressive and seductive way.

Reason for the lack of intercourse #5: Arguments

An argument can manifest during sexual intercourse in two ways: a wild make-up intercourse or punishment by rejecting intercourse. The first variant offers more possibilities to end the argument and the atmosphere will be back to normal in no time, while the other variant is harmful for your relationship. In such case you should identify the reasons for arguing and solve them before going to bed. In case the arguments are constant and long-lasting they will ruin your sex life, so you can also seek help at a counselor.