Talk Dirty to Your Lover

11.04.2012 | By: S. J.

It's high time we learn to talk dirty to our partners: muster up our courage and surprise them by whispering something very special in their ear.

Do you want to arouse your partner madly? Talk dirty to them! (PhotoXpress)

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Talking dirty can be a very awkward and unpleasant experience if you are doing it for the first time or with a new partner. It is important not to force yourself to talk dirty to your lover, but to wait for the moment of great spontaneity because that is the only way the whole thing will work without a hitch. The following pieces of advice will definitely help you bring dirty talk into your sex life.

Be what you are!

Talking dirty to your lover can sound very funny if you try imitating the actresses in pornographic films. Do not imitate anyone! Talking dirty is sexy only if it reflects how you feel. There is no sense in badly imitating someone.

Find the right tone of your voice

It is important to find the right way of speaking, which will suit you and your partner. You may speak in a high or low voice, but whispering is especially desirable. You can also use your everyday voice, or the complete opposite. You do not have to limit yourself to only one tone of voice! Changing the sound of your voice can often additionally arouse your partner, because he or she will never know what is coming next when your lips are approaching his or her ear.

Enrich your vocabulary

Many people grew up being taught that swearing is a taboo. Now you have the chance to let go of that inhibition and show what you are capable of. Avoid medical terms like penis or vagina, because a sentence like "I want to feel you in my vagina" will not have the desired effect. If you have trouble finding the right words, help yourselves with a book or the internet, and as a last resort see an erotic film. But be careful! They may sometimes contain some expressions that are too vulgar.

Practice on your own

For a start, try to talk dirty to yourself during masturbation. Imagine making love to your partner and talking dirty to him or her. First just imagine the words, then pluck up the courage and say them aloud. Do not worry, noone can hear you if you remember to close the windows beforehand.

Make the rules together

If you laugh at each other and judge one another for what you say, then talking dirty will not be pleasant. It is important you stay at the borders of what you both find acceptable. You don't want to utter something unexpectedly vulgar that will offend your partner.

Some further suggestions

Do not rush. For a start, it is enough if you say how you enjoy having sex with your partner aloud. It is okay to start with sentences like: "I like it when you touch my ..." or "I like to feel you doing ...". You can also describe everything you plan or want to do next with your partner when you are having sex.

This is only the beginning of our "dirty" sexual vocabulary. We will give you some more titillating details of talking dirty. Until next time - be sure to start practising.