The Troubles of the First Date

23.07.2010 | By: A. B.

How to seduce, convince and flatter someone on the first date and get to the final goal?

Some men do not like it when the woman gives herself to them too soon. (Photoxpress)

Strike on the first date

You are right, the first date is not very pleasant. It is a war of nerves, where you have to fight for your territory and victory. It is a battle of all or nothing, where the person with the right tactic wins. Women are strange creatures. If the guys are too brave on the first date, they think they are only looking for sex. If they hold back, they doubt if the guys even find them attractive. That is why the guy has to choose a way in between. He does this by cunningly checking what he can do and how far the woman will let him go. That is right, on the first date the boundaries are usually set by women. Guys are always up for it and they just wait to see how far they will be able to go. The first date also depends on how well the couple got to know one another previously, on the phone or through internet. If this is a blind date, the first impression is of key importance and almost everything depends on it.

Stupid rules for the first date

Many people set rules for the first date, like not going further than a kiss, or like playing a certain role and not show who they really are and basically act like they are better than in reality. They want to hide all their mistakes and create the impression of being perfect. This can be good, but it can also be very bad because your partner can uncover your lies already on the second date. The same goes for kisses. Some have no problems waiting for them, while others find it stupid to wait for them and do not understand why chemistry and spontaneity are not allowed. Women have the most problems about what should be allowed on the first date. They are afraid men might find them too easy because some men do not like such kind of girls because this destroys the magic and the thrill of the chase. It is best to do a combination of emotions and passion, which will unquestionably bring you the winning combination.

Can you show your enthusiasm on the first date?

When the first date is over and when you are returning home filled with good impressions, for example, problems may naturally arise again. You are wondering if you can show the potential partner that you are impressed. Can you send the partner five telephone messages, where you say that you are in love, that you like this person madly and that you cannot wait to see him/her again? Is this a good idea or a mistake? Some will say it is a mistake, while others would advise that it is better to follow your heart and do the things you feel. Some women will like it when a guy confesses his love right away, while others will be scared or even turned off. The same goes for guys. Some will like the feeling while others may wonder if they are not in for a wedding and children already the next week.

Can you go all the way on the first date?

Are you allowed to have intercourse on the first date? This is a strange question that is very hard to answer. Some say yes, others no. Some say it is a good idea, others that it is better to wait. Some people simply like to find out right away if they are compatible with the other person in bed as well, others prefer to wait and get to know the person in other ways first. Many couples want to do it right on the first date, while many couples rather wait and discover one another slowly and romantically, despite the desire. It is hard to say what is better. It might be better to wait a little and make sure it is for real and that the man is willing to wait a little because of love. This is in fact a female weapon and a good test which is possible only on the first date.

Is it a good idea to give the other person another chance?

What if everything goes wrong? If the man is a total jerk and the woman strange and cranky? Is the first date enough to draw conclusions or is it a good idea to give it another chance, a second shot where something completely different may happen? We say a second shot is a good idea. The second date can be much better than the first because the people know each other a bit better. It all depends on how bad the first date was and how big the desire for a second chance is. To put it in another way, the second date is as difficult as the first, which means that you will have the same problems all the way to the tenth date.