What Troubles (Sexually) Dissatisfied Women?

18.01.2012 | By: Alex F.

Find answers to the questions that many (sexually) dissatisfied women ask themselves.

Eternal waiting for sex soon leads to conflicts in other areas of life. (PhotoXpress)

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I’m worried about my sexual relationship

SHE asks: Our sexual intercourse is becoming increasingly shorter and I feel dissatisfied afterwards. After two years of our marriage, we’re at the point of having quick sex, twice to three times a week...

REPLY: Your disappointment is completely understandable. This is also partly your husband’s fault. However, are you certain that you did everything possible to prevent this situation? After two years of marriage, you should already know what pleases your husband, what his fantasies are, how he reacts when your sex life is the topic of a conversation and what is an ideal wife for him. Don’t you think that it would be good to take the initiative and use you imagination in your sex life, so you both will want to prolong your lovemaking?

When you’re running out of time

SHE asks: My husband’s workload has increased significantly and, when he returns home tired in the evening, he rather goes to sleep than make love. In the morning, when I wake him up at 7.30 a.m., he still snores.

REPLY: You can try the following: get up at 6.30 tomorrow morning, prepare him a good breakfast and treat him to breakfast in bed. Men are usually “ready” in the morning in don’t remember the troubles from the previous day. Your partner will definitely use the remaining time wisely and you’ll be in seventh heaven!

I don’t want to swallow his sperm

SHE asks: When I have my period, my husband wants to have oral sex with me. This is still all right, but because he knows that I don’t like to swallow semen, he holds my head so I wouldn’t move while he ejaculates.

REPLY: What you’ve said is a rather serious matter. You and your partner have to change things, otherwise your marriage won’t last long. Your husband shouldn’t behave like that. And you won’t achieve anything with a negative attitude that only makes his position firmer. Face the facts: you say that he wants to have sex, but that isn’t normal, even if it’s a common practice of many couples. We advise you to stay positive the next time you have your period instead of satisfying his demands, and say to him: “Darling, I’ll pamper a bit now...” and then do what he expects you to do, but try to do it with love. When you see that he’s about to ejaculate, stop oral stimulation and fondle him with your hand, saying: “I really love to watch you when you come.” When he‘s finished, lick again the head of his penis with your tongue and lips. I’m convinced that he won’t demand anything else from you. You’ll please him without being forced to do it or experiencing the swallow reflex.

He wants me to fondle myself in front of him

SHE asks: When I make love with my partner, he often wants me to sit on him and fondle my breasts and clitoris in front of him.

REPLY: You probably often fondled yourself before you met your first partner, and maybe you even did it in front of a mirror and you liked it. Now there’s a man in front of you instead of a mirror. He watches you and enjoys it. There’s nothing more natural than that. Don’t resist fondling your body, even when he doesn’t ask you. This is a good way to boost your and his lust.