Why It Might Be a Good Idea to Practice Abstinence from Sex for 30 Days?

It may sound absurd, but one month of sexual fasting, or abstinence from sex, can be very beneficial for both you and your intimate relationship. Discover your "lovemap", take sexual intercourse off the menu, rejuvenate, and feast on love.

 

 

Let’s take sex off the menu in order to really feast on love. (jlp)

 

What is sexual detoxication?

 

Sex Detox is the title of a book by Ian Kerner, where he tells us we should also use detoxication in a sexual sense, in order to renew our lust, revitalise intimacy and rejuvenate our love life. Abstinence from sex is appropriate for couples and for single people, for gay people and heterosexuals, for young and old.

 

 

Why should we ever give up sex?

 

Sometimes we are so involved in a relationship that we don’t see anything past the things that can become harmful for an individual and the relationship. That’s when it’s an especially good idea to have a sexual fast, which freshens up our relationship and sexual life.

 

When we give up intercourse for a while, we can find out what problems are hidden in the relationship and where these problems lie. The problems connected directly to sexual intercourse can also be solved. You may find out you’re having intercourse only out of a sense of duty - you tune out because you don’t feel involved and you fake orgasms.

 

 

What is your “lovemap”? (jlp)

 

 

Detoxication plan

 

Ian Kerner has made a thirty-day plan for abstinence from sex, which is quite easy to follow. You can try it with your partner or on your own.

 

There’s an activity for you planned for every day, like reading, looking at old photographs, breathing lessons etc. All this is done with the purpose of finding out what your “lovemap” really is. This is a mental pattern of your ideal partner and your ideal sexual or erotic activities. In plain terms, lovemap shows what actually attracts you, turns you on and brings you satisfaction, both sexually and romantically.

 

Journals, questionnaires and breathing lessons also form a part of this book.

 

A sexual fast is appropriate for both couples and single people. (jlp)

 

Let’s take sex off the menu and feast on love

 

Voluntary abstinence from sex which is limited to 30 days is supposed to give us more understanding of what goes on in the bedroom and how it affects the relationship, and vice versa. One of the main results is that we learn to appreciate our partner every day, and also appreciate both sex and love. We simply stop taking things for granted.

 

So it pays to practice abstinence from sex for a while. To put it poetically: Let’s take sexual intercourse off the menu in order to feast on love.

 

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