6 Biggest Sex Mistakes Women Make

If you want your sex life to improve, avoid these common sex mistakes!

 

Less than thrilled with your sex life? Don't be too quick to lay the blame on him. (jlp)
 

Ladies, be honest. When you’re not happy with your sex life, the first thing you do is draw up a list of all your partners’ shortcomings and mistakes. It’s true that guys often don’t understand women’s bodies and ways of thinking so it’s easy to put the blame on them. But it takes two to tango. Sex therapists claim that a large portion of mistakes that make your sex life dull can be laid at your own door, girls! So read about the six common sex mistakes women make and learn how to turn your less-than-thrilling sexual experience into the total gratification you deserve.
 
 

Sex mistake no.1 – You never initiate sex

 

It’s 2009, but most women still worry about things that belong firmly into the past centuries. They don’t want to look too aggressive or come on too strongly for fear they’d behave like “tarts”. According to psychiatry professor Les Parrot, the author of “Crazy good sex”, the biggest mistake women make is that they never initiate sex. “Men are usually the ones who initiate sex and this makes them feel there’s an imbalance in your sexual drives. They feel that you don’t really want them.” Men want to be the object of desire just as women do. “Hanging on to by-gone sexual roles won’t make you happy in your sex life” says Dr. Ruth Westheimer, sexual therapist and professor at the University of New York. “Men are convinced that women have less sex drive and take it personally even though it isn’t true.” So be bold, show him that you want him and make the first move. You’ll impress your partner and take control of your sex life.
 

It's high time you initiate sex. The more you'll have sex the better you'll like it. (jlp)
 

Sex mistake no.2: You’re too worried about your looks

 

Thinking about the way you look during sex isn’t too wise. It’ll keep you from completely relaxing and enjoying intercourse while an orgasm is out of the question. Your partner will surely notice your uneasiness and he won’t be able to enjoy himself either. Concentrate rather on your senses and the pleasurable sensations. What men want most is for their wives to forget everyday cares and completely relax during sex and live just for that moment. Don’t obsess about your flabby tummy or smeared make-up. Trust us – during intercourse your man won’t even notice it! The expert term for this phenomenon is selective blindness – but we’ll tell you more about it later.
 

Sex mistake no.3 : You’re assuming that sex doesn’t mean that much to him

 

Don’t presume that sex is just another form of exercise (although a pleasant one) for your man! Most men consider the sexual act as very important and you shouldn’t underestimate what it means to him. Research shows that men and women consider intercourse in a committed relationship as much more satisfying than a one-night stand. They also indicate that married couples have the best sex the most often. A staggering 52% of men have tried to use casual sex to start a lasting relationship and only one third were successful. And the moral of the story? Never assume that your man isn’t a romantic and that he just wants sex and not you.

 

 

Sex mistake no. 4: Men are always up for it, right?

 

Well, yes if you’re talking about teenagers, but mature men are different. The pressures of everyday life – work-related stress, family, bills – can affect a man’s sex drive. Most women are unpleasantly surprised by this and take it way too seriously. They’re so shocked to find that he’s not in the mood that they can’t believe it. Though they know that they themselves are sometimes not in the mood and love their man, they immediately think that he doesn’t love them anymore. Well, ladies, he’s just not up to it.
 

If you want your man to please you, tell him how. (jlp)
 
 

Sex Mistake no. 5: You don’t tell him what you want

 

An honest discussion about sex and what we like or dislike about it can be a bit awkward, though you’ve been together for a long time. But it’s the only way to improve and sustain your sex life. A woman must take responsibility for her sexual satisfaction as even the most skilled lover will not be able to make her climax if she doesn’t tell him how. The good news is that most men really want to please women. Tell him how to do it without hurting his ego by mixing compliments about the things he does well with things you dislike about your sex life. Trust us, men do know how to listen especially if you explain what you want loud and clear.
 

Sex mistake no.6 : You’re upset when he suggests something new

 

When a couple have been together for some time it’s normal that they want to spice up their sex life by trying out new things. Just because your partner suggests trying something new doesn’t mean that he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. In short; don’t take his suggestions too personally. But remain within the bounds of what is still acceptable for you. No one can pressure you into doing something you consider immoral. Politely but firmly refuse such suggestions and explain why you consider them inappropriate. If you have no moral objections but still feel uncomfortable doing it, tell him so and ask him to be understanding. Still, don’t react too strongly – take time to consider his request. It never hurts to try.
 
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