Addiction to Adventures and Falling in Love

People who cannot survive without excitement, who don’t have serious relationships and feel like they have to cheat might be addicted to adventures.

 

 

 

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Addiction to adventures

It may sound silly if we say that such behavior is considered to be an addiction, but it shows all the symptoms of an addiction. It controls an individual, but loses the effect after a longer period, which forces the user to have another dose. Most people say that they are unable to resist because of the indescribable feeling, and they are unwilling to give that up. What are we talking about? We are talking about falling in love, butterflies in your stomach, the beating of your heart and the tension created in your body, and about the sweet feeling of the new, the unknown, an adventure. The feeling when you realize that you’re in love with someone and you can hardly wait for something to happen, anything, a look, a touch. Love sends electricity down your spine. Those who have no idea what I’m talking about imagine your expectations during Christmas and New Year. It’s a silent tension growing in your body and making you slightly stoned. Some people seek these feelings their whole lives. In adrenalin sport, illegal drugs, gambling and love, too - that is, not love actually, but falling in love.

Prolonged childhood

If we look through the eyes of an adult person, it often seems that we become “adult” by giving up and failing to have such feelings. When you’re an adult, you don’t fall in love any more – you choose your partner. You don’t expect presents. You don’t jump to conclusions. You don’t allow yourself to be intoxicated. You take responsibility for your actions and lose the ability to feel the magic and the mysterious. Here addicts experience problems. A young high school couple enjoy two years of wild love (in fact two weeks, but we won’t go into detalis). When their studies begin, they change their environment and start realizing that the world is a thrilling place and that a lot of people are interested in them. They again experience the feelings they enjoyed in the first 14 days together. Everything is normal. They are a great match and could spend the next eighty years together and have a bunch of children, but one of them is an addict. The feeling of the new, an attraction to adventures, ends the high school fantasies.

What to do?

What do you do if you’re addicted to adventures and at the same time you’re in a serious relationship and practically have no problems? Adults’ advice would probably be to grow up and face the fact that you can’t have everything and that things fade eventually. But you probably already know that and don’t care if things fade because that creates an opportunity for another shoot. Free-thinking people would say to enjoy life while you can and take the opportunity of experiencing all these feelings. Christians would put all the blame on the devil’s temptations. No piece of advice is useful and none of them works. If you find yourself in such a situation, which is always a unique mixture, you have to decide for yourself. You have two options and both of them are extreme and difficult, but that’s the only way to stay loyal to yourself.

The first option is to share your desires with your partner and talk to your partner about them. You’re therefore honest and seek the truth - you’re loyal to your feelings and your partner, and you will thus have a clear conscience, if you have one. This isn’t a solution yet, but it’s a good start of the ending of your relationship and a new adventure or a re-definition of your current relationship. The second option is to stay loyal to your lies. You lie to the world and your partner and have one adventure after the other. You cheat because you don’t want to hurt your partner or because the truth might make your life more difficult. Reasons don’t matter at all. You only have to be strong enough (some people would say perverted) to lie to the grave without affecting the attitude to yourself and your partner. All the options between the two above are worse. Many people can’t imagine lying to their partners, but it’s much easier than it seems at first glance. The truth is sometimes unpleasant because it hurts and is cruel. How to resolve the problem with addiction to adventures? You can accept it and minimize the harmful effects (that is, lies) or reject it and suppress a part of your personality on the basis of principles. It’s your decision.

 

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