Everything You Need to Know About Psychosexual Maturity

5.04.2011 | By: A. B.

Read our definitive guide to psychosexual maturity and all the possible problems related to it.

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Psychosexual maturity 101: Love and sex

Psychosexual maturity is a person’s capability for a full romantic, sexual and married life, where the person shows all of his or her capabilities and personal values for a quality life in a partnership. Some sexual lexicons say that: "Psychosexually mature people satisfy their sexual desires only with a person they are emotionally connected to. Such people completely open up their personality to their partner and work with their partner in all areas of life without limitations."

Psychosexual maturity 101: Real sexual love

Once people reach a certain stage of psychosexual maturity, they know how to face all the problems that a romantic partnership brings. They enter the partnership with the right mixture of sex and love, where their attitude towards the partner is honest. This is very different to immature people who have terrible problems building a successful romantic relationship and marriage. These people are prone to promiscuity. Even though they might be in a relationship, they are unable to offer any real love or commitment.

Psychosexual maturity 101: Adapting to the partner’s needs

The essence of psychosexual maturity is also the capability of adapting to your partner. Some sexual lexicons say that: "Mature people don’t lie to themselves about the partner’s characteristics. They are aware of their own quirks and do not feel the need to present themselves in a better light. They have a sense of responsibility and the wish to adapt to the partner’s needs. This is true of sex as well, where a possible pregnancy isn’t left to chance, but is planned meticulously and sensibly. They only have children with people they live with in a successful romantic relationship or a successful marriage." Psychosexually immature people who often don’t care if one of their many partners got pregnant are the complete opposite because they have sex however and whenever they wish.

Psychosexual maturity 101: Why some don't reach it

But the reasons for problems with psychosexual maturity stem from early youth, when these people experienced various types of trauma. These traumas left strong negative sensations, fear and even repulsion. This is also topped off with the feeling of guilt. Sexual lexicons explain: “Such traumas leave deep scars in people. They make natural reactions in a romantic relationship more difficult, especially in the time when young people’s personalities are being formed.” There can be many reasons for the traumas, like coincidentally seeing rough sexual intercourse by adults, perhaps parents or some other relatives who forgot to close the door to the bedroom. Another reason is sexual abuse during childhood, perhaps the rape of a girl or the not too gentle way of losing the virginity. Traumas can also be caused by a bad experience during first sexual contact and by other things. In other words, psychosexual immaturity isn’t only a stupid and egoistic habit of someone who doesn’t care about having a normal partnership, it’s also a serious psychosomatic problem that only experts can deal with.