It Turns Me On If I Dominate You!

3.04.2010 | By: T. G.

Many people are turned on if they dominate their partner during sex. Well, some people go to extremes.

The fantasy of domination in its mildest form includes at least the tying of hands. What follows depends on the imagination of the leading actor or actress. (Photoxpress)

A desire for domination can already be reflected in certain sexual positions

A desire for domination can already be reflected in certain sexual positions!

There are specific positions or situations where you get a strong feeling that you dominate your partner.

For women: These are the positions where a woman is on top of a man and when she is active in a way that he can barely move.

For men: These are the positions where a man “takes” a woman from the rear.

At this stage, domination isn’t yet a fantasy come true unless a man has to be in such a position to achieve an orgasm. Much more general fantasies about domination are shown when one of the partners feels that he/she is in a more dominant position and this arouses him/her. Such an example is the case of an older person and an adolescent, or when one person forces the other one to have sexual intercourse. People often have such fantasies. In fantasies involving domination, the other person is always in a humiliating position as opposed to the “leading actor or actress”.

An extreme example of sexual desire for domination

The man had a particular passion: he only wanted, or liked, children. When he had sexual intercourse with adult women, he always felt defeated because he was terribly afraid of them.

When turning your sexual fantasies into reality, you always need to consider the wishes of your partner - this should go without saying. (Photoxpress)

This man was so attracted to little girls that he opened a stationery shop on the other side of the school. His passion and desire were so strong that he was willing to drag a girl into the back room. He always managed to overcome the temptation so he wouldn’t end up in prison, but he was afraid that one day he would no longer be able to resist it.

For a while he felt better because he was seeing a 40-year old prostitute dressed as a school girl. She had braids and a school bag. He experienced very strong orgasms with her, but not those he would experience after seeing children in the street and then going to the back room and masturbating in front of pictures of girls.

A psychoanalyst’s advice

In the end, a psychoanalyst advised him to find a short and young woman. One of his friends took on this delicate task and found him a 20-year old woman (the man was 32 years old). She was so short that she didn’t envy children as regards any physical comparison. Finally, no man wanted to marry her, but the man in this story fell in love with her from the moment he met her and since then he was always potent. She always had to be dressed as a girl and have braids ...