Switching Partners: Would You Lend Your Man to Your Friend?

Switching partners might seem an interesting sexual practice at first, but the truth is that it often ends with terrible consequences for your relationship.

 

If you opt for switching partners, you should count on the possibility of one of you falling for someone else. (jlp)

When love comes to town

If you've seen the movie Lie To Me, which was recorded in 2008 by John Stewart Muller, then you know that it all starts pretty innocently. With the story of a couple who have agreed to have sex with other couples, when they feel the desire. Whenever and with whomever, without the other partner having the right to be jealous. The relationship remains successful. Actually, very successful. Even in bed, where the partners tell each other stories about their hot experiences with others to additionally arouse each other. Until one day when they start to have emotions for other people - she falls in love with a man she had sex with and he with a young woman with whom he exchanged a passionate kiss. Of course this slowly divides them and their relationship begins to crumble. Even though such a thing has never happened to them before and even though they have grown used to "cheating" on each other. Lie To Me is just a movie, but it rings true and presents a real life scenario - as emotions do come into play and complicate open relationships. An individual cannot control his or her emotions, especially if he or she comes across a very visually attractive lover with an appealing personality who eventually gets under their skin. Although he or she may pretend that nothing has changed and he or she officially still "belongs" to their partner, they'll be thinking more and more of their new lover and won't be able to repress their feelings. If you decide to venture into switching partners, count on the possibility that one day you may meet a person that will confuse you and put your basic relationship in serious danger.

 

Switching partners easily leads to accusations, jealousy and a feeling of guilt. (jlp)

When jealousy comes into play

 

Let's turn to another movie - The Big Swap from 1998, which presents a group of couples who one night decide for switching partners, as they're curious and eager to try something new, bored as they are of their dull sexual routine. The night goes by without any troubles, on the contrary, it's wonderfully cheerful, as everyone expected. Especially those who have secretly fantasized about sleeping with their friend's partner for a long time. But the following day ushers in a catastrophe. A million different questions start to torment the participants. Let's list the most typical ones. Men ask: »Was his penis bigger than mine? Did you come? Did you swallow his sperm? Is he a better lover than me? Have you fallen in love with him?« Women are curious: »Do you like her breasts better than mine? Did you lick her? Did she give you a better blowjob? Why are you looking at her? Why have you picked her?« These are the questions that would bother real couples, too. Questions that will lead to quarrels, and jealousy will be there to stay. An additional problem could be the moral hangover, where a person can't forgive himself or herself, especially if alcohol was involved or if it turns out that one of the partners liked the experience far better than the other. Switching partners thus isn't advisable for people who are in serious relationships. It's impossible to avoid making comparisons, even with the most steady individuals.

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