Troilism: Would You Invite Another Person to Bed?

25.10.2011 | By: Alex F.

Triolism is the phenomenon where a couple invites another person to bed and it often becomes a habit or even a living arrangement.

Troilism requires the consent of both partners. However, it’s difficult to imagine a joint household of three people. (Photoxpress)

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Players are voyeurs and exhibitionists

Troilism isn’t practiced by young couples. It’s largely a habit of mature couples who live a comfortable life. They’ve tried everything and consequently had a surfeit of all experiences. It can happen that a man tends to have additional sexual stimulation and a woman wants an orgasmic addition that will supplement the deficiencies of her steady partner. In troilism, partners are voyeurs and exhibitionists at the same time. In a threesome with two women, it’s best if both women are more or less bisexual. This can rarely be expected from men in a union with one woman.

Disagreement among partners

It seldom happens that both partners agree on the idea of troilism at the beginning. One partner usually tries to persuade the other to realize “fantasy adventures” that would refresh their sex life. Troilism is sometimes also a result of the situation where a woman isn’t prepared to actively participate in certain love techniques, such as oral and anal intercourse, but she is unwilling to let her partner satisfy his lust with another woman. She prefers to be present when it happens in a threesome and also experiences some pleasure herself. The problem of establishing a threesome isn’t so much the partner’s consent as it’s the search for the third member. It’s better if the person isn’t married and it’s often younger than the partners.

When is troilism the wrong choice?

You have to be aware that troilism won’t work if partners don’t live in a stable community filled with mutual respect, where there’s no room for jealousy. Troilism isn’t a transitional thing and it’s this characteristic that distinguishes it from changing partners, commonly referred to as wife swapping.