What Is Sex After Childbirth Like?

Read everything about the right time to have sex after having a baby and how to go about rekindling your sex life.

You just had a baby and sex is probably the last thing on your mind. Your day irevolves around breastfeeding, changing diapers, cleaning up, and you’re exhausted from all those sleepless nights as well. Your body is still a bit sore from childbirth and all the changes that had happened to it during pregnancy make you feel neither erotic nor attractive. Who would even think about having sex after having a baby if things are as we have just described them? Well, things aren’t always so grim and sex is a key element of intimacy in a relationship. The sex life is what keeps you and your partner close to each other, but when it comes to having sex after having a baby, certain questions do pop up. We would like to help you with a couple of  tips concerning sex after having a baby, but we have to point out that these tips should not be regarded as a replacement for medical advice! Your personal physician will be able to help you in this case and will also answer all the questions you might have concerning sex after having had a baby. Any childbirth is unique so there's  no  universal rulkes concerning this particular area.

When is the right time to have sex after having  a baby?

The answer to this question depends strongly on yourself and your partner. You should be physically able to have sex about 6 weeks after childbirth. The bruises and scars that come along with childbirth namely take about 6 weeks to heal completely. The time span could also be longer ,depending on how severe the bruises and scars are, whether you received any stitches, and if there were any complications during delivery. Although you should be physically fit to have sex after having a baby, there still is the mental aspect to be regarded concerning this particular matter. Every woman experiences her pregnancy and the actual childbirth uniquely and the new mother role also changes her perspective on things. It's quite normal to feel no desire for sex right after having a baby, to find your body rather unattractive, and to be completely exhausted thanks to the responsibilities concerning your newborn. Your partner could experience the same things and that’s why the decision to have sex after having a baby again is quite individual and depends on many different factors.

Rekindle the intimacy

Some couples get right back on track, while others need a bit more time to be able to have sex after having had a baby again. It is important for the two of you listen to each other and start to rekindle your intimate bond slowly. Leave the baby with someone you trust and have a romantic candle-light dinner or go to the theatre. Don your sexiest dinner dress and spruce yourself up just for him, like the two of you were going out on your very first date. Caress each other, cuddle, snuggle up to each other and use kind, soft, and gentle words. You don’t have to have vaginal sex after having a baby right away. You can start with oral sex first, or maybe just masturbate together, or even just start by kissing and caressing each other gently. This will help you to get to know each other in your roles as lovers again and remember that you’re sexual beings too, and not just parents of an infant child.

What can you expect while having sex for the first time after childbirth?

Having sex for the first time after having a baby can bring a certain level of uneasiness with it. Your vagina has  been subjected to a lot of stretching and trauma not too long ago, so it would be best to wait with penetration until you are really, really ready and really, really aroused. Even if you had never experienced any trouble with a dry vagina before, it would still be advisable to have some extra lubricant ready if things don't go  smoothly. Breastfeeding can also affect the amount of vaginal fluid and can lead to a tightening  of skin around the vagina, so you could also experience some problems in this particular department. The important thing is not to worry too much. This is just a transitional phase. You should also curb your expectations concerning having sex for the first time after having a baby. It's completely normal for the first sex after having a baby to be everything but breathtaking. It will definitely take some time before you get used to having sex again. It is also important not to rush things and to go about it gently. If penetration is painful or unpleasant in any other way, you should stop and try again some other time. Vaginal sex is  not all that you could do to experience sexual delight, so take your time and rather do something that both of you will enjoy.