Am I Obsessed with Sex?

13.04.2010 | By: T. G.

Who sets the boundaries between good and bad, and who sets the boundaries between a testosterone level that is high and one that is abnormally high?

Do not worry. Boundaries are not set clearly. First listen to yourselves, then others and finally to experts. (PhotoXpress)

Maybe there was a time when you looked at yourself in a mirror and said: “What if I’m obsessed with sex?” You can relax, I am sure that nobody knows exactly how to classify this human trait.

Who is obsessed with sex?

People who believe they are obsessed with sex claim that their whole life revolves around sex and in some way they know that such behavior doesn't give any special thrills. However, they need a constant amount of non-special thrills, otherwise they are in a melancholy and sullen mood and, above all, they're irritated. A patient admitted to Peggy Elam, a therapist and psychologist, that gender and race did not matter much to her. Only the act in the form of sexual intercourse was important. She often compared herself to drug and alcohol addicts. She desperately wanted to have a monogamous relationship that would help her stop this obsession.

You may not like her, but she does have a vagina. Sounds familiar? (PhotoXpress)

What do experts say?

You will probably like the response of therapists. Namely, experts themselves have not yet clearly defined “sex addiction”, and thus an official diagnosis cannot be made by a psychiatrist. However, if you consider yourself as someone who is aware that their behavior is a burden and that it causes stressful situations and self-destructive conduct, it is time to admit that and set a goal to change certain habits.

It is essential that you learn to make a distinction between “being in the company because of the company” and “being in the company because it leads to sexual intercourse”. To start with, ask yourselves a few questions ...

Adventures of a sex maniac who never was that

Michael Douglas had to enter a rehab clinic because his wife caught him in bed with a friend. Naturally, that is not a sufficient reason to label a person a sex addict, but there are a lot of situations in the world of celebrities that are applied to a wider part of the society, which also happened in that case. Before that time nobody spoke of sex addiction. Therapists who consider such a problem serious say that this group of people is as irresponsible as drug addicts and alcoholics because their wild sex life endangers their families, health and jobs. When speaking about jobs: how many of you visit porn or erotic websites at the workplace? And how many of you take laptops home at the end of your working hours because you do not have enough time to do your work at the office?

In any case, there are different opinions. I think a line should be drawn between megalomaniac sex drive and sex addiction. In case of the first, you are doomed to constantly seek pleasure and self-confirmation and in case of the second, you will probably be referred to a hospital environment where you will be persuaded that your behavior is wrong. Obviously, there is a very thin line between fun and abnormal. On which side are you? Let others tell you that, for instance, unprofessional therapists – people that are close to you.