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Fantasies about rough intercourse

Based on various researches, many psychologists and sexologists believe that many women fantasize about rough intercourse which almost borders on rape. We are naturally speaking of erotic games between couples, where there’s role-playing involved and not real sexual abuse. Sexologists and media (like the website Askmen.com, for example) say that fantasies about forced intercourse are among the top 10 female sexual fantasies because they allow women to fulfil their fantasies about rough and dirty intercourse, without having any feelings of guilt or shame. The desires most often include an attractive man who rips all the clothes off their body. They resist him, but he simply takes them without any questions asked. They only start feeling pleasure during penetration.

Men supposedly fantasize about rough intercourse as well

It is mostly about the feeling of subjugation and helplessness – a woman is unable to resist the man. The partner can make these fantasies a reality for a woman by partially masking himself and surprising her with his decisiveness and brutality. The difference between a fantasy and reality is that the fantasy allows a woman to have some control over the events, which is very important because she can stop the sexual game at any point or change the way it’s playing out. Women aren’t the only ones who fantasize about rape. A research from 1980 showed that 45.8 percent of the men who were questioned had fantasies about heterosexual intercourse where their partner rapes them, meaning that a woman takes them dominantly and derives her sexual pleasure by only using men as sexual objects. These kinds of sexual experiences and fantasies are often described in feminist literature or are treated as a fetish.

Rough intercourse and role-playing

We have to be without prejudice when we’re talking about what people do in the privacy of their bedrooms. Even though many fetishes and fantasies are not understood or explained, the attraction is understood by people who are turned on by such things. Fantasies about rough intercourse (rape) will only be tackled by couples if the thought arouses both parties. It’s hard to join feelings of love and violence. But acting and playing out fantasies for your partner isn’t the same as the real thing.

Wrong ideas

This highly unusual fetish is in no way a reflection of true wishes. It would be highly inappropriate for men to get the wrong idea about female fantasies regarding rough intercourse. When the media describe ‘fantasies about rape’, they most often think about female fantasies of a man grabbing them without reservations and going to the main course without foreplay and without any romance. They want for the men not to see them as a loved person, but a sexual object. So when we say ‘fantasies about rape’, we’re not talking about fantasies of real rape.

Variations on fantasies about rough intercourse

The closest things to these fantasies are fantasies which involve intercourse with a stranger, sad-maso and bondage. Couples most commonly make these fantasies come true with the help of dominance or subjugation because the same feelings are involved with these kinds of sexual practices. For as long as human imagination and sexuality have no limitations, these and other types of fetishes will be present in sexual intercourse.

Read more about sex and sexuality in our Lover's Guide.