Beat Shyness

Are you one of those who prefer having sex in the dark? You can get past being reserved in bed.

 

Step out of the dark! (jlp)

 

Fear, nervousness and shyness during intercourse occur frequently with men and women alike. Of course, there are several reasons for not being able to relax during intimate encounters with your partner. The most complex ones are connected with your self-image, as well as past sexual experiences.

It helps to have a warm, loving, supportive partner with whom you can easily discuss your insecurities. (jlp)

Being shy due to one's physical appearance

Many men and women prefer doing it in the dark, where their bodies aren't that visible, since they have problems being nude in front of their partner. Unfortunately, a poor self-image can affect your sexual pleasure. Even though you don't find your own body too attractive, and God forbid you should compare yourself with the models on the covers of magazines, you must be aware that this kind of attitude limits the experiences during intercourse which should be honest and uninhibited. And no matter what you look like, confidence will make you more attractive! 

To beat shyness, you must start to respect yourself and slowly build a positive attitude towards your body. You can certainly achieve this. Remember, each individual - whether more plump or chiselled - has a unique body. Also, by exercising and eating healthy you can improve your figure. It's perfectly OK if you never look exactly like the models on the covers of magazines. You don't have to, since you possess your own unique beauty, and just think of how would it feel like to constantly worry about your appearance. Last but not least, all the pictures of models are retouched, so basically those images aren't real at all.

Shyness due to past experiences

Past experiences can be the cause of fear of not performing well in bed. If you had an overly critical, abusive or insulting partner in the past, it's understandable that you are less self-confident and that you take a more passive approach to sex. But don't think that all men are the same, and remember, nothing's wrong with you.

Don't let your negative past experiences determine the quality of your sex life at present. (jlp)


Talk to your partner about your fears and emotions, so that they'll understand what makes you feel awkward. If your partner doesn't seem willing to help you to overcome your insecurities, you should ask yourself if it's a good idea to share your bed with them in the first place.

A more experienced partner

Many people are afraid that they are in bed with a more experienced person and that their lover will be disappointed with their activities in bed. If you're scared that your partner won't be satisfied, it's best to talk to them about what they like and what turns them on beforehand. You can even ask them to guide you during sex, so you can really bring them the pleasure you want to.

If you boost your self-confidence, sex will become more relaxed and wild. (jlp)


In order to avoid awkwardness and overcome shyness in bed in the long run, talk about your wishes openly. You deserve to have a satisfying sex life. Just go for it!

 

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